The Secure Husband

Do you feel like you walk on eggshells around your wife? Do you avoid conflict, get anxious when she’s upset, or feel like you're always messing up? You’re not weak—you’re stuck in a fear response.In this episode of The Secure Husband, Bruce Abbott breaks down a clear path to help you stop reacting out of fear and start leading with calm strength.Here’s what you’ll learn:✔️ Why you feel anxious when your wife is upset✔️ How early wounds may be driving your reactions✔️ What it means to pause

You try hard to fix things. You give, you ask, you wait. But your wife still feels distant—especially when it comes to sex. If that sounds familiar, this episode may explain why.We’re talking about preoccupied attachment—a hidden pattern where your self-worth depends on how your wife responds to you. You might think your love is strong, but if it’s driven by anxiety and fear, it may be pushing her away instead of bringing her closer.In this episode, Bruce Abbott breaks down:✔️ What

You think chasing her love will save your marriage—but it’s doing the opposite. In this episode of the Secure Husband podcast, we discuss how preoccupied attachment creates emotional pressure, weakens attraction, and drives your wife away.You’ll learn how this need for constant validation leads to anxiety, control, and emotional distance—even when you don’t realize it.Here’s what we cover:✔️ What preoccupied attachment looks like in a marriage✔️ Why your need for affection may feel heavy to

Are you ignoring your own needs to keep the relationship going? If so, you might be abandoning your inner child without even realizing it. When your spouse doesn’t put in effort, it’s easy to minimize your pain, take too much responsibility, or tell yourself you shouldn’t need more.This episode will help you recognize and break free from these patterns. You’ll learn how to:✔️ Stop minimizing your emotions and fully validate your feelings✔️ Accept that your needs for love and effort are real

She said she doesn’t want to go to couples counseling. That can be tough to hear, but what if this moment is actually an opportunity for clarity and growth? Instead of seeing this as rejection, what if it’s a sign that it’s time to focus on your healing?In this episode, we respond to a podcast listener's comment about a wife who refuses to go to couples counseling.✔️ Acknowledge your emotions without judgment✔️ Recognize what your inner child needed in that moment✔️ Separate reality from

Do you find yourself reacting to rejection with anger, withdrawal, or neediness? These patterns don’t define you, but they do keep you stuck. Healing starts when you stop abandoning yourself in response to pain.In this video, you’ll learn:✅ Why your emotional reactions come from old survival patterns✅ How to meet your inner child with deep compassion✅ How to stop self-abandonment and build self-love✅ Why healing is about your inner security, not changing your wife✅ The steps to take loving

Is your wife’s withdrawal making you feel rejected, unworthy, or insecure? The truth is, saving your marriage starts with healing yourself—not trying to change her. The Secure Husband process helps you connect with your inner child, stop self-abandoning, and step into self-love.In this video, you’ll learn:✅ How your wife’s behavior triggers old wounds—not creates them✅ Why childhood beliefs about love shape your reactions✅ How to reparent your inner child and build inner security✅ The