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The Kink Perspective

The Kink Perspective

Join me weekly, as I dive into the intricate connections between BDSM and psychology. Discover the latest research, community interactions, and key issues. Whether you"re a seasoned participant or curious, tune in to enhance your understanding of the kink world. Hosted By Chris C. A psychotherapist specializing in trauma, with 25 years of experience in the lifestyle community. Donate Here Direct link for donation: https://donate.stripe.com/aEU4hz39QaFG3Mk9AG

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00:37:20

Season 4 Episode 25 - The Urge to Lose...

The Kink Perspective ·

2025/06/30

On today’s show, I discuss what it really means when someone feels the urge to lose. To give in, fold, apologize, or beg for forgiveness, not out of peace but out of fear. We look at the collapse response as a survival strategy, not a flaw, and explore how it shows up in both vanilla and kink relationships. I break down the difference between collapse and submission, why disappearing can feel safer than standing up, and how early emotional conditioning shapes this pattern. If you’ve ever felt like

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00:29:50

Season 4 Episode 24 - Trauma Bonding in Relationships...

The Kink Perspective ·

2025/06/23

On today’s show, I discuss trauma bonding, what it is, how it forms, and why it feels so powerful. We take a clinical and grounded look at the psychological mechanisms behind trauma bonding, from intermittent reinforcement to early survival adaptations shaped by attachment wounds. I break down how these patterns show up in both vanilla relationships and kink dynamics, where power exchange can sometimes blur the line between healthy vulnerability and trauma reenactment. We cover the red flags to

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00:38:45

Season 4 Episode 23 - Love Bombing: Intensity Isn’t...

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2025/06/17

On today’s show, I discuss the reality behind love bombing: what it is, why it works, and how it shows up in both vanilla and kink dynamics. We’ll look at the psychology behind the behavior, the emotional impact on the person receiving it, and the signs you might already be in it without realizing. From rushed intimacy to coercive affection, I break down how love bombing can distort consent, erode pacing, and blur the line between connection and control. Whether you're a Dom, sub, or just

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00:36:00

Season 4 Episode 22 - When the Terms Change...

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2025/06/10

On today’s show, I discuss what happens when the relationship you built no longer fits the life you’re living now. I explore the need for renegotiation, not because something is broken, but because people change. From emotional contracts and outdated roles to attachment patterns and the psychology of growth, I break down why honest check-ins matter and how to approach them without fear. Whether you're in a vanilla marriage, a long-term D/s dynamic, or somewhere in between, this episode offers

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00:39:09

Season 4 Episode 21 - Erotic Mismatch in...

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2025/06/02

On today’s show, I discuss what happens when love and erotic identity don’t align. Can a relationship survive when one partner is kinky and the other isn’t? I explore the emotional split, the impact of performative dynamics, the hope that love can “convert” desire, and the quiet cost of suppressing who you are to stay connected. This is an honest look at erotic mismatch, self-abandonment, and what it really means to compromise.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit

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00:41:36

Season 4 Episode 20 – The Rise of...

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2025/05/27

On today’s show, I discuss the growing misuse of trauma language in kink education and why it’s more than just a trend. From burnout worksheets shared without context to influencers offering therapy-adjacent advice without credentials, we’re exploring where personal experience stops and clinical responsibility begins. I break down the differences between trauma-informed and trauma-specific work, the risks of therapeutic mimicry, and how unqualified voices are reshaping safety in BDSM communities

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00:29:00

Season 4 Episode 19 - Ghosting, Autonomy, and the...

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2025/05/20

In this episode, I return to a topic I covered early on: rejection resilience. This time, I’m taking a direct look at ghosting. We explore the difference between hurt and harm, why not every disappearance is an act of betrayal, and how emotional entitlement shows up in the aftermath. For those in the BDSM community, where intensity and vulnerability run deep, ghosting can feel like a violation. But is it always? I break down why autonomy includes the right to walk away, how we confuse discomfort

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00:34:07

Season 4 Episode 18 - The Slow Burn of Resentment in...

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2025/05/13

On today’s episode, I discuss how resentment takes root in power exchange relationships and why it often goes unnoticed until real damage is done. I explore the emotional cost of silence, how forgiveness gets misused, and why avoiding conflict can slowly erode trust and connection. This is a conversation about clarity over comfort, and what it really takes to keep a dynamic emotionally honest and sustainable.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button

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00:28:15

Season 4 Episode 17 – Craving Punishment: BDSM,...

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2025/05/06

On today’s show, I discuss the eroticism of punishment, and why, for many, it’s not about pain but about being seen. I explore how early attachment wounds, shame, and emotional neglect can shape our adult desires, especially in kink and power exchange dynamics. This episode dives into the psychology of arousal, trauma reenactment, and the thin line between healing and compulsion. Whether you’re a Dominant, submissive, or just curious about where your cravings come from, this is an invitation to

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00:43:50

Season 4 Episode 16 - BDSM and Alcohol and Substance...

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2025/04/29

On today’s show, I discuss the growing trend of drinking and substance use at dungeons and BDSM events. As different lifestyles like polyamory and swinging increasingly overlap with kink spaces, the standards around consent, autonomy, and responsibility are starting to shift, and not in ways that protect the community. I break down why sobriety matters in play spaces, the risks that come with impaired consent, and how easily lines can blur when alcohol enters environments built on trust. This is not

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00:25:31

Season 4 Episode 15 - BDSM and Personal Power and...

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2025/04/22

Sovereignty On today’s episode, I discuss personal power and sovereignty, not as abstract ideas but as lived experiences that shape how we navigate identity, roles, and relationships. I explore the difference between positional power and personal power, how trauma impacts our ability to trust ourselves, and what it means to reclaim our sense of self in the context of kink dynamics and beyond. Whether you’re Dominant, submissive, Switch, or something else entirely, this conversation is about learning

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00:33:00

Season 4 Episode 14 - BDSM and Trauma vs. Desire...

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2025/04/15

Does trauma cause BDSM desires? Is kink just a reenactment of old wounds? Or can it be something more, a form of healing, reclamation, or simply joy? I break down the difference between influence and origin, explore what it means when kink feels familiar, and offer a path forward grounded in choice, consent, and self-understanding. This is not about shame. It’s about clarity. Whether you're a survivor, a practitioner, or simply curious, this episode invites you to explore where your desires come

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00:33:34

Season 4 Episode 13 - BDSM and the Sex Offender...

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2025/04/08

On this episode, I discuss a topic that continues to challenge kink communities everywhere: should individuals on the Sex Offender Registry be allowed into public events or dungeons? I explore the emotional and psychological impact these decisions have, not just on survivors but on entire communities. From leadership accountability to the erosion of trust, I take a hard look at what happens when safety, consent, and transparency are sidelined. This isn’t about personal attacks. It’s about the

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00:30:40

Season 4 Episode 12 - BDSM and Coercion, Boundaries...

The Kink Perspective ·

2025/04/01

On this episode, I discuss coercion, boundaries, and consent, not as buzzwords, but as lived realities inside power exchange relationships. We break down what these terms actually mean, how they get confused or manipulated in kink spaces, and why that confusion causes real harm.I speak to the ways coercion can be disguised as Dominance or devotion, how internalized guilt keeps people silent, and why accountability is not a threat to the lifestyle. It is essential to it.This episode is a call back to

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00:23:15

Season 4 Episode 11 - BDSM and People Pleasing...

The Kink Perspective ·

2025/03/25

On this episode, I discuss people-pleasing behavior and how it shows up in the lifestyle. I break down what it really is, where it comes from, and why it’s often mistaken for consent. I talk about the difference between saying yes from a place of choice versus saying yes out of fear, and why that difference matters so much in kink. If you’ve ever found yourself agreeing to something just to keep the peace or avoid conflict, this one’s for you.Continue the discussion on Fetlife:

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00:37:25

Season 4 Episode 10 - BDSM and Military Mindset in...

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2025/03/18

On today's show, I discuss how military personnel and veterans navigate power exchange in BDSM. The structure, discipline, and leadership developed in service shape both Dominance and submission, influencing how they engage in D/s relationships. Some embrace the authority and control of a Dominant role, while others find submission as a way to release responsibility in a structured and intentional way. I explore how military training aligns with high-protocol dynamics, the challenges of

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00:41:02

Season 4 - Episode 9 - BDSM and Loneliness vs....

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2025/03/11

On today’s show, I discuss the difference between loneliness and solitude, and why understanding both is essential for personal growth and deeper connections. I dive into how loneliness can show up even in the kink and BDSM community, and how it affects our relationships with ourselves and others. I also explore how embracing solitude can be a powerful tool for reflection, healing, and understanding our desires and boundaries. It’s a conversation about how these feelings shape our lives and how we

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00:21:55

Season 4 Episode 8 - BDSM and the Validation Trap in...

The Kink Perspective ·

2025/03/03

On today’s episode, I discuss the fine line between validation and dependence in D/s relationships. While praise and approval are natural parts of power exchange, they shouldn’t become the foundation of self-worth. When one partner relies too much on the other for validation, it can create emotional instability and strain the dynamic. I explore how this happens, the impact on both submissives and Dominants, and what each can do to foster a healthier, more secure connection.Continue the discussion on

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01:53:30

Season 4 Episode 7 - My discussion with JohnBaku...

The Kink Perspective ·

2025/02/24

For over a decade, John Baku’s name has been tied to a community that never sleeps. But what does that do to a person? In this conversation, it’s not about the platform, it’s about him. The weight, the expectations, the moments no one sees. No scripted answers, no filters, just an honest look at the man behind it all. This is John Baku, like you’ve never heard him before.His profile on Fetlife: @JohnBakuSpecial appearance by @R4monContinue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to

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00:42:26

Season 4 Episode 6 - BDSM and "Emotional Vampires..."

The Kink Perspective ·

2025/02/18

On today’s episode, I discuss emotional vampires, those people who drain your energy, manipulate situations, and thrive on drama. In the BDSM lifestyle, where trust and deep connections matter, they can be especially damaging. We’ll break down how they operate, the tactics they use, and most importantly, how to protect yourself. And stick around until the end, I’ll be revealing my special, upcoming guest interview that you won’t want to miss.Continue the discussion on Fetlife:

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