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The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children"s mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you"re parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or other nervous system vulnerability, this show will let you know you are not alone. You can stop playing behavior whack-a-mole because Robyn offers you tools that

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Ep. 206: Punishment Free Parenting with Jon Fogel

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} ·

2025/01/28

Jon Fogel is a dad who combined his passion for parenting, neuroscience, and impacting the world to create a viral social media account (@wholeparent) and then to publish his book, Punishment-Free Parenting. Jon and I get lost in some pretty deep topics together, including How he helps parents make huge parenting shiftsHow parenting with punishment relies on a pretty pessimistic view of humanityBoundaries vs. Consequences vs. PunishmentsResources mentioned in this podcast:Punishment...

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Ep. 205: Scaffolding Felt Safety

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} ·

2025/01/21

How do we help kids feel safe when they are safe? How do we help them take in the safety that exists in their life when their life experiences seem to have convinced them that nothing is safe. Scaffolding. Yes, we can scaffold felt safety.My recovery from a very serious back injury left me pondering the importance of felt safety in taking risks and the necessity of scaffolding felt safety. In this episode, you’ll learnThe importance of relationship in felt safetyHow even felt safety...

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Ep. 204: The Way of Play with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

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2025/01/14

Play makes kids stronger. It’s necessary for their physical and emotional development, and even their academic development. Play helps kids work through and make sense of hard things. A few months ago I went searching for a resource that teaches parents some of skills I used as a play therapist because I am passionate about breaking down barriers and teaching these skills to as many adults as possible- not just therapists. Tina Payne Bryson’s newest book (co-authored with Georgie Wi...

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REPLAY: Living with Someone Chronically Dysregulated

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2025/01/09

Do you live with someone or love someone who is chronically dysregulated?This episode isn’t an episode that is going to tell you what to do.This is an episode of commiseration. Of “I see you.”It is exhausting to live with someone who is chronically unhappy, or chronically dysregulated. Knowing you’re not alone can help.In this episode, you’ll learnHow nervous systems match each otherHow we get our sense of safety from the state of each other’s nervous systemThe serve & return and rhythms ...

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REPLAY: Silliness as a Sign of Dysregulation

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2025/01/07

Have you ever felt confused by your child’s silly behavior? It seems like they are having fun, but it doesn’t feel good at all?In this episode, you’ll learnHow to tell the difference between fun-silly and dysregulated-sillyWhat’s going on in the brain and nervous system for a child who is dysregulated-sillyPractical ideas for how to support your child returning to regulation, connection, and felt safetyResources mentioned in this podcast:The Connected Therapist by Marti SmithJoin The Club! Wa...

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REPLAY: You Aren't Doing it Wrong

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2024/12/31

You aren’t parenting wrong. It’s not your fault. Asking “What am I doing wrong?” is the wrong question! Here’s what be curious about instead.In this episode, you’ll learn:That you’re not doing it wrong (well, not any more wrong than anyone else)A more helpful to question to ask ourselves when our kids are strugglingWhy having kids who are never dysregulated isn’t the goalResources mentioned in this podcast:Robyn's book: https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbookInfluence Behaviors, Not Control http...

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REPLAY: Grief in Parenting

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} ·

2024/12/26

Robyn explores the grief in parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems In this episode, you’ll learn:The relationship between trauma and griefWhy it's important to make space for grief in our kids and in ourselvesThe role of self-compassionHow a lack of media representation of your parenting journey causes griefResources mentioned in this podcast:Robyn's book: https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbookRead a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/griefOver on my website you can...

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REPLAY: Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips...

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} ·

2024/12/24

How do we not flip our lids when our kids are going bananas? It's HARD. Because dysregulation is quite literally contagious!! And if we flip our lids too then it's usually pretty hard to deescalate the situation. Offering connection, regulation, and felt-safety to our kids is a lot easier if we don't flip our lids! (Although for sure- perfection in parenting is never ever ever required and sometimes, I flip my lid, too!)In this episode, we will look at steps you can t...

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REPLAY: Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} ·

2024/12/19

Cues of safety, danger, or life threat come from three places- inside, outside, and between.In part 3 of this series on felt safety, we are exploring felt safety from between- from relationship!In this episode, you’ll learnHow availability of connection is a cue of safety or dangerHow neuroception can tell the state of the other person’s nervous system (connection or protection?)Why nervous systems are contagiousHow ‘between’ cues of safety eventually become ‘inside’ cues of safetyHow you can...

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REPLAY: Felt Safety (Outside) - Part 2

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2024/12/18

In this second episode of a three-part series on felt safety, we are going to explore all the ways our kids (and ourselves) are neuroceiving safety or danger from what’s happening in the environment.In this episode, you’ll learnMisconceptions about felt safetyExternal (outside) cues of felt safety, such as the environment, sensory experiences, structure, and environmental demandsWhat we do with this informationFree Multi-Page Infographic all about Felt Safety! CLICK HEREResources mentioned in...

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REPLAY: Felt Safety (Inside) - Part 1

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} ·

2024/12/17

Let’s go back to basics! Last week we talked about seeing behavior through the lens of the nervous system and then took a deep-dive into co-regulation.This week begins a three-part deep-dive into the foundational concept of felt safety.What is felt safety, what isn’t felt safety, and why it matters!Next we will explore the many different ways we are all neuroceiving safety (or not) from our inner world.In this episode, you’ll learnMisconceptions about felt safetyInternal cues of felt safety, ...

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EP 203: An Underwhelming Grand Reveal!

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} ·

2024/12/10

Hey everyone, this is Alex, Robyn's son and podcast editor. To be 100% honest, we forgot to record a podcast for this week. Luckily, I have stepped in to fill the podcast void and to make my grand reveal!In this episode, you’ll learnWhat my voice sounds like!Why we didn't get a new episode out for y'all.Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/grandreveal Follow Me On:FacebookInstagramOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior...

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EP 202: Low-Demand Holidays

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} ·

2024/12/03

We think a lot about how to lower demands for our kids, but in this episode we’re going to talk about how we can lower demands for ourselves, specifically during the holiday season.Regardless of where you live in the world and what holidays you do or don’t celebrate, it’s hard to avoid the extra stress that comes in December.In this episode, you’ll learnHow to look at traditions or expectations and consider which ones to prioritizeHow to increase felt safety- for you and your kids- at holiday...

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EP 201: Walking on Eggshells

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2024/11/26

Living with someone with a vulnerable nervous system almost certainly leaves you feeling like you are walking on eggshells.It’s that sense of not knowing what’s going to happen next, having to tread lightly, and being constantly at risk of making a misstep that will trigger the other person. In today’s episode, we are going to break down the neurobiology of walking on eggshells and talk about what you can do to shift out of this pattern- even if you can’t change the other person’s behavi...

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Ep. 200!: Gratitude for Our Watchdog & Possum Parts

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} ·

2024/11/19

In this special 200th episode, we’re exploring how to bring compassion, curiosity, and gratitude to our kids’ (and our own) “Watchdog” and “Possum” parts as overworked companions trying their best to help us survive. With acceptance and understanding, we can help these parts rest and integrate, creating space for true change.We also look at the unique challenges parents face, especially when dealing with intense behaviors, and how building compassion for these protective parts—not the behavio...

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Ep. 199: Scaffolding Relational Skills as Brain...

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} ·

2024/11/12

The brain is the brain is the brain. All behaviors have their origin in the brain. But for some behaviors, it is easy to lose sight of this important truth.Behaviors that would be easy to label as manipulative or controlling or selfish just feel so personal! But if we can remember that even relational skills are brain-based skills, we can reclaim our empathy, set boundaries, and offer the scaffolding or accommodations necessary to help our child be successful.In this episode, you’ll learnHow ...

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REPLAY: Titrating Connection (Oppositional Series -...

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} ·

2024/11/05

In this episode, I unravel how to extend connection to our children while acknowledging that some might see this connection as a threat. I offer insights on toning down the demand for connection, enabling our children to relax in it, and thereby strengthen their stress response system. I also reference the previous episodes in this four-part series by talking about the science of opposition, some practical strategies, and tackling kids stuck in protection mode, all with the aim of providing a...

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REPLAY: When Connection isn't Safe (Oppositional...

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2024/10/29

If offering safety and connection is the antidote to oppositional behavior, what do you do if connection isn’t experienced as safe or regulating by your child?In this episode you’ll learn:How connection and protection can get tied togetherHow to keep offering connection, even when it’s consistently rejected by your childThe science behind why YOU need to be receiving connection - and how you can do that even if you don’t have a lot of extra time or supportive people in your lifeResources ment...

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REPLAY: Strategies for Oppositional Behavior...

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2024/10/22

Last week we talked about the science of oppositional behavior. This week, let’s look at strategies to help children rest into felt safety so their nervous system feels better and their oppositional protective strategies can decrease.In this episode you’ll learn:An invitation to consider some of our cultural beliefs around opposition in the parent/child relationshipHow to use our grown-up brains to invite connection and cooperationStrategies for creating felt safety in the child's inner world...

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REPLAY: Oppositional And Defiant Behavior...

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} ·

2024/10/15

What if oppositional behavior is a normal response to feeling unsafe? In this episode, we unfold the layers of oppositional behavior and its roots in the nervous system. We look into the diagnostic complexities of Oppositional Defiant Disorder and dive into how our own state of the nervous system is important in helping our children navigate their Watchdog and Possum pathways.In this episode you’ll learn:That even oppositional behaviors make total senseSpending a lot of time in protection mod...

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