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Trauma Free Relationship

Join us as we explore the complexities of trauma and its profound effects on our attachment relationships. We"ll delve into the science behind trauma, unravel its hidden patterns, and empower you with practical strategies for healing and building trauma-free relationships. If you are ready to break free from the patterns of your past and create loving, secure relationships, this podcast is for you. We will provide you with the tools and insights you need to heal from trauma and build trauma-free

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00:21:57

The Past in the Present: Exploring Transference and...

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/05/23

Join me in this episode where we discuss what transference is and how it works in you relationship. Transference is a process by which we transfer or project our past experiences onto our current situation or person. This can lead to difficulties creating a real, authentic relationship. We break down the two side of transference and talk about how it works in the anxious and avoidant attachment styles. This is a can't miss episode. Download our FREE workbook for couples:

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00:23:57

The Taming of the Triggers: Understanding and...

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/05/16

Join me in this episode as I take a deep dive into exactly what is a trigger and how to handle them. Triggers are a high-jacking of the central nervous system and puts the individual into fight or flight mode. This is different than just normal feelings that may arise in any given situation. Rather a trigger is a fragment or piece of past trauma that reoccurs 'as if' the trauma is still happening, rather than an event from the past. Download our FREE workbook for

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00:21:47

You Defense is Talking: Messages Sent by Defensive...

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/05/09

Join me in this episode where we break down trauma cycles that couples get stuck in, and the negative messages that gets sent through their protection. We dissect how the fear networks in our brain generalize and struggle to tell the difference between imagination and reality. They often conflate the message that is sent by our partner's defensive behavior and their intent, and we look at the protective message that get interpreted by the anxious and avoidant attachment style of each partner

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00:12:11

Close Enough to Cuddle, Far Enough to Breathe:...

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/05/02

Join me in this episode when I discuss how to balance independence with togetherness. This is something all couples must negotiate, regardless of whether they have a secure or insecure attachment style. We discuss what make balancing these two needs difficult, and historically why independence was favored over togetherness. Download our FREE workbook for couples: https://www.traumafreerelationship.com/pl/2147999609 Sign up for a coaching call:

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00:23:26

Dim the Flame: Unmasking Gaslighting in Relationships

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/04/25

Join us in this episode when we explore gaslighting. We discuss the differences between gaslighting as intentional manipulation, versus your partner having a difference experience. We identify what gaslighting looks and feels like, to help you understand whether you are being gaslight in your relationship. And finally, we talk about strategies to consider if you are in an unsafe relationship due to gaslighting. Download our FREE couples workbook:

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00:19:49

The Relationship Reflection: Exploring Present Process

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/04/18

Join us in this episode where we explore a new tool for couples by learning to use present process reflection. This tool allows the couple to bring into fucus what is happening in the interaction in the present moment. Couples usually get bogged down in the words they are saying to one another and end up stuck in patterns of communication that go no where. By using this technique, it allows the couples to understand the nonverbal interaction that is reflecting more of what is happening than just the

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00:21:19

How To Have Difficult Conversations

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/04/11

Join us in this episode where we talk about how to have difficult conversations, not only with your partner, but with anyone. This is an essential life skills, being able to discuss something emotional with someone else, whether that is a colleague, a friend, or your spouse, learning to have healthy and productive difficult conversations can go a long way in helping you navigate your world. Not only do we define what a difficult conversation is, but we walk through some bullet points to help guide

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00:13:24

Can You Love Me In This Place?

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/04/04

In this episode we discuss the hard to reach places that we hold inside ourselves that causes such difficulties. Those raw scars that we feel about ourselves and usually never show to anyone. What if those places get triggered in our interactions with our partner? How do we open ourselves up to get a response from our partner that can have a healing effect on our past traumas. I provide a case example to illustrate those hard to reach places and beliefs we have about ourselves that were born out of

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00:18:37

What Does It Mean To Work On Yourself?

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/03/28

In this episode, we discuss what it means to "work" on yourself. This is something I hear a lot from couples and individuals. Sometimes this means the couples wants to take a break so they can "work" on themselves. We discuss the pros and cons of doing so. We also discuss what the actual "work" is that is working on oneself, and answer the questions, can oneself be worked on outside of a relationship? Download our FREE couples workbook:

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00:22:42

Behind the Mask: Understanding Narcissism in...

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/03/21

Join us in this episode where we decode whether your partner is a narcissist. We tease apart the clinical definition of narcissism from someone who has a more fragile sense of self that resembles narcissism in a relationship. This episode is not a diagnosis, but rather a way of looking at how you experience your partner's behaviors that may resemble narcissism from their actual needs they are trying to get met. Highly informative!Download our FREE workbook for couples:

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00:26:33

Still Crazy After All These Years: Reflections on 23...

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/03/14

Join us in this episode as I reflect on 23 years of marriage. I will discuss 7 lessons learned that I think applies to all relationships and why they are so important. You don't want to miss this highly personal and reflective episode on a couples therapist own relationship!Download our FREE couples workbook: https://www.traumafreerelationship.com/pl/2147999609 Need additional help! Sign up for a coaching call: https://www.traumafreerelationship.com/relationship-coaching

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00:17:22

The High Maintenance Relationship: Embracing the...

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/03/07

Join us in this episode where we talk about pursue/pursue cycles. These cycles are created when both partners have an anxious attachment style. When disconnection or ruptures occur in the relationship, both partners can clash like a fiery volcano, then quickly go dormant until it erupts again. Underneath the emotional explosions are two people who desperately want to feel secure in their relationship, but strive to repair ruptures too aggressively. They can appear critical, demanding, or controlling

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00:19:13

Unscripted Love: How To Make Better Repair Statements

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/02/29

Join us in this episode when we learn 25 repair statements for the insecurely attached. We break down repair statements for the avoidant and anxious attachment styles in order to provide scripted phrases that can be used either in the moment of a rupture, or to calm back and repair after a rupture. These statements can be mixed and match depending on the context and can be used by anyone who wants to learn to make better repair statement to their partner. Get our FREE workbook for

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00:23:12

Validated & Alive: Fueling Your Relationship with...

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/02/22

Join us in this episode where we talk about the important of validation and how it makes each partner feel more alive. Our identity is supported and sustained through our partner being able to understand our internal experience. Without validation we feel like we are suffocating. But when our partner can validate who we are, how we see the world, and possesses a deep knowledge of the context in which we live and breathe, then we feel more connected and can breathe deeper in our relationships. We

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00:23:35

Get To The Root of The Problem

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/02/15

Join us in this episode where we learn how to get to the root of the problem during ruptures. Most couples get stuck because they can't get to the core of what the conflict is about - which is usually about a old wound being triggered. Being able to recognize an old wound and the unmet need helps the couple communicate better and make faster repairs. We walk through an exercise that helps each partner understand the wounds that get triggered and how to communicate this to their partner in a

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00:18:35

The Secret of Repairing Ruptures: Second Level...

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/02/08

Join us in this episode where we discuss one of the best tools for repairing ruptures: second level communication. When ruptures occur in relationships, the couples wants to get back to a place of connection, but often struggle to know how. We discuss what keeps them stuck, the need for validation, and most importantly the purpose behind second level communication. We break it down and provide examples. This is a must listen episode you don't want to miss!Download our FREE workbook for

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00:20:13

Worlds of Meaning: When Couples Get Locked in...

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/02/01

Join us in this episode where we discussed what happens when partners get stuck in different perspectives - or what I can systems of meaning. We all have subjective meanings that we draw from our experiences that shape our identity. So what happens when each partner is trying to be deeply understood by the other, but to no avail. We outline 3 ways to break out of our system of meaning and provide clinical details as well as personal experiences. Download our FREE couples workbook:

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00:22:53

Do you have emotional allergies?

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/01/25

In this episode we discuss being allergic to an emotion. Emotional allergies are learned in our family of origin and often taught not verbally, but rather through actions that communicate meanings around one or more unacceptable emotions. We provide examples on emotional allergies in our clinical work, as well as personal life, and we discuss how this shows up in our relationships. We also discuss ways to overcome emotional allergies and build up a tolerance from a range of emotions in ourselves and

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00:29:05

What Happens When Both Partners Have Avoidant...

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/01/18

Join us in this episode as we discuss what happens when both partners have an avoidant attachment style. When ruptures occur, the avoidant styles create withdraw/withdraw cycles that can come to dominant the relationship, but not in a fiery way like other cycles. Withdraw/withdraw cycles create an icy coldness where neither partners knows how to feel safe enough to engaged, and neither partner wants to make things worse. So they retreat to their protective moves while longing for a closer

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00:25:31

Rupture Repair Cycle: The #1 Issue for Couples

Trauma Free Relationship ·

2024/01/11

Join us in this episode as we explore the nature of the rupture repair cycle. We unpack the what it is, discuss why it is so important in the life of the couple, and the different ways insecurely attachment partners try to make repairs that often miss the mark. We also discuss what effective repairs look like and provide examples from the couch as well as metaphors to bring this concept alive. Download our FREE workbook for couples: https://www.traumafreerelationship.com/pl/2147999609 Join us on

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