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How To Hold A Grudge

Many of us believe it’s always wrong, and bad for us, to hold a grudge. But what if our grudges, when handled correctly, can be positively good for us and for others? What if grudges are actually great — not a cause for guilt, but exactly what we need to lead a happier, safer, more fulfilled life? Join internationally bestselling crime writer and grudge-holder extraordinaire Sophie Hannah to find out all about the power of grudges to transform your life for the better and to make the world a more

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47:21

S4 Episode 1 - Everything is Cancelled!

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2020/04/20

The How to Hold a Grudge podcast returns to provide fresh grudge-related chat to help keep you entertained during the time of social distancing. In this first episode Sophie and Grudge Poet Laureate Nic Aubury talk about cancellations - highly topical, but are they always a bad thing? Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear. Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly

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58:05

S3 Episode 10 - Dame Agatha's Grudges

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2020/01/09

Sophie is joined by psychotherapist and fellow Agatha Christie superfan Helen Acton to discuss grudges — valid/reasonable and invalid/unreasonable — in the novels of Agatha Christie, the Queen of Crime. Also in this episode: the beauty of three-layered puzzle solutions, the Insufficient Poirot Content grudge some fans have about novels like Cat Among the Pigeons and After the Funeral, and Sophie reveals her grudge-related theory about why Murder on the Orient Express and And Then There Were None

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S3 Episode 9b - The Cultural Artefact

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2020/01/04

Sophie is joined by award-winning, bestselling novelist Naomi Alderman for this special bonus episode. They discuss the popular misconceptions that give rise to that widespread phenomemon, the Misunderstanding-of-Loyalty Grudge, and what loyalty truly means in a grudge-holding context. Also in this episode: when couples separate and friends pick a grudge side, why it's always grudgeworthy to write insulting blog posts about your best friends, and a grudgey dilemma involving a potentially devastating

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51:59

S3 Episode 9 - Against My Better Grudgement

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2020/01/02

Being judgemental is bad, we tend to think, but using our judgement is essential. So how do we distinguish between good judging and bad judging? Having a lower opinion of some people than others has to be okay, surely, even if one's aim and wish is to be all-forgiving and grudge-free. Sophie and Helen Acton discuss the ways in which our own ethics and opinions in relation to infidelity and meat-eating, among other things, can influence how lenient/empathetic we're able to be where those issues are

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45:55

S3 Episode 8 - The Newcomer

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2019/12/26

There's always room for a newcomer — a new grudge type — in the Periodic Table of Grudge Categories. After a new TV crime drama attracts hundreds of comments that strike fear into Sophie's heart, she tries to find a name for this emerging grudge in order to classify it accurately. Also in this episode, Sophie plays a newly invented grudge game, Judge That Grudge, with poet Nic Aubury and psychotherapist Helen Acton. Grudge types receiving judgemental scrutiny include: people turning up on time

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S3 Episode 6 - Grudges, Boundaries and The Manual

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2019/12/12

Sophie and Podcast Grudge-Poet Laureate Nic Aubury discuss those grudges that we might not need to hold if only we were better at creating and sticking to personal boundaries. If we're so busy people-pleasing that we allow ourselves to do things we hate in order to placate others, isn't that our fault rather than theirs? Also in this episode: what does American life coach Brooke Castillo have to say about boundaries and the 'manuals' we have in our minds for how other people should behave, and do

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45:24

S3 Episode 5 - The Direct Approach

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2019/12/05

In a friendship, is it acceptable and necessary sometimes, or uncharitable and grudgeworthy, to say 'You did X and I didn't like it' or 'I'm angry with you because you said Y'? Sophie is joined by psychotherapist Helen Acton for much jolly disagreement on this subject. Why would Sophie never in a million years tell friends, family, acquaintances or anyone that they'd upset or annoyed her? And why does Helen adopt the opposite approach? Is it just down to personal preference or is there a better way

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56:05

S3 Episode 4 - Back To School

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2019/11/28

Sophie is joined by this podcast's poet in residence Nic Aubury, who is also a Latin teacher at Oundle School. Together they discuss more shocking and frankly implausible (though entirely true) school-based grudge anecdotes, and whether all schools should be abolished for being too grudgeworthy. Also: when teachers lose their temper and yell and scream at pupils, or announce their intention to humiliate children deliberately, is this understandable and something that's just bound to happen now and

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44:25

S3 Episode 3 - The Emoji

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2019/11/21

If you share a piece of life-changingly amazing good news with a close friend, lover, parent or sibling, and they respond simply with one yellow smiley face emoji and no words at all, is that innately grudgeworthy? Could and should they have done better? Is a diagnosis of envy any sort of mitigation? Or are you the one guilty of grudgeworthy behaviour in that scenario — for failing to take the happy emoji at smiley-face value? Sophie and psychotherapist Helen Acton discuss The Inadequate

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46:43

S3 Episode 2 - The Mitigating Spouse

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2019/11/14

Is it grudgeworthy if someone has a terrible spouse, even if they themselves are completely innocent? Why aren't more people alert to the grudgeworthiness of their romantic partners? Sophie is joined by this podcast's Grudge-Poet Laureate Nic Aubury to discuss what to do when you have a close friend whom you adore, yet you can't visit them at their house because it contains one of the grudgeworthiest husbands known to humanity (or at least to Sophie).

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38:07

S3 Episode 1 - The Blip

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2019/11/07

If someone has done or said something grudgeworthy, but it's the only grudgeworthy thing they've ever done, should we always let them off and treat is as a mere blip? Is it possible to sustain long friendships and relationships in which no grudgeworthy behaviour occurs? Should everyone get at least one 'get out of grudge free' card? And how relevant are patterns of behaviour and track record when assessing the grudgeworthiness or otherwise of a particular action? Sophie talks to psychotherapist

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45:27

S2 Episode 10 - Inheritance Grudges

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2019/05/16

Nic Aubrey is back to discuss grudges related to wills with Sophie - and how best to divide your money to avoid grudgeworthy feelings between siblings. This episode concludes the season, see you back for season 3 of How To Hold A Grudge!

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47:33

S2 Episode 9 - Grudges and Intentions

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2019/05/09

Does the intention behind grudge-worthy behaviour change the nature of your grudge? This week Sophie welcomes back Ann Grey to discuss how we interpret other people's behaviour, why people would intend to cause pain, and why Sophie doesn't discuss her grudges with the grudgee.

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40:12

S2 Episode 8 - Why Grudgeworthy Is A Great Adjective

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2019/05/02

In this solocast(!) Sophie looks at a variety of topics ranging from handy adjectives, how to identify a true grudge, and a behaviour that she believes to be grudgeworthy. Sophie's book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE is out now in hardback, eBook and as an unabridged audiobook read by Sophie.

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52:43

S2 Episode 7 - How To Respect A Grudge You Don't Share

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2019/04/25

This week, Sophie is rejoined by Season 1 guest Ann Grey, a therapist, meditation teacher, and homeopath. Looking at grudges from a more psychological angle, Sophie and her guest discuss the effect of grudges on the mind, how empathy towards the grudges of others can be beneficial to everyone, and how a seemingly trivial grudge may actually be telling of deeper issues.

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S2 Episode 6 - Turn The Other Cheek

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2019/04/18

In this episode Sophie speaks to Rev. Stephen Heard about grudges and Christianity. Can you hold grudges and still be a good Christian?

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S2 Episode 5 - Please Find Enclosed

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2019/04/11

In this episode Sophie welcomes back Season 1 guest Nic Aubury to talk about school bureaucracy related grudges. There's even a song from a play written by Sophie and her musical writing partner and podcast jingle contributor Annette Armitage.

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S2 Episode 4 - Forgiving, Not Forgetting

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2019/04/04

In this episode Sophie discusses her grudge philosophy with author and mindfulness teacher Sylvia Clare, including the complex relationship between grudges and forgiveness. Sophie' book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook.

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50:56

S2 Episode 3 - The Energy of Grudges

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2019/03/28

This week, Sophie talks to Anne Welsh - author, librarian, and expert in cataloguing. Join Sophie and her guest in discussing the emotional energy associated with holding grudges, ‘caveats for continued friendships’, a whole new multi-faceted grudge-classification system, and the dangers of leaving your egg mayo sandwich in a library. Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Buy now

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48:03

S2 Episode 2 - Criticisms Are Not Grudgeworthy

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2019/03/21

In this episode Sophie turns her attention to some of the criticisms of her grudge theory with a little help from writer and critic Robert Hanks. Sophie's book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook.

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