People often go about getting confident in completely the wrong way. Thoughts such as "When I've lost weight, moved house, got that promotion, etc. then I'll be confident...". It's the "when I have, then I'll be" syndrome. It's a subconscious excuse programming the mind not to move forward. This can lower confidence and self-worth. So let's look at that...The post 11 – How You Sabotage Yourself appeared first on Denise Bosque.

你需要学习如何独立照顾自己，从生活中的小事开始，自己做决定、自己照顾自己，慢慢减少对他的依赖，逐渐从创伤关系中挣脱出来。

如果你把意义感和价值感锚定在越多的对象上面，每一个对象所承载的负担就越小。同样，任何一个对象出现波动，对你造成的冲击也就越低——你变得更有弹性、更有力量，你总是能从其他对象上面获得反馈和能量，用来抵抗失控、重新获得掌控。

This podcast is all about how to close down a relationship that's been casual. Or maybe just a few dates might have turned into a situation-ship or just something you've decided you've had enough of and it's really not right for you. There's a number of questions that people ask me and I'm gonna go through them one at a time. First one is, is there ever a right way to reject or turn someone down that you've been casually dating? And yes, I think it's always better to be clear and assertive. This

亲密关系里，最高级的状态，其实是“互相涵容”。涵容就是，你能精确感知对方的情绪，即使对方向你传达坏的情绪，你也能理解TA背后的动机，并帮助TA消化。

无论你如何去壮大自己，一个人去应对压力，始终是艰难的。但反过来，一旦我们意识到一件事 —— 那就是「我们从不孤独，我们拥有强大的后援」—— 那么，不管什么样的压力，也就显得没那么可怕了。所以，一定要多社交。

当愤怒成为一种生活方式，而你却意识不到时，它就成了一个问题。没有人会担心一个孩子在某种情况下短暂爆发的愤怒。但当这种行为变成一种生活态度、一种生活方式时，它就成了一个问题，就像某些类型的抑郁症一样

尽量避免拖延，及时完成任务和责任。这样可以减少未来的焦虑，并让我们更能专注于当下。 关注当下是一种积极的心态，可以提高生活质量和幸福感。尽管我们不能完全忽视过去和未来，但学会在当下寻找平衡和满足是很重要的。

So I'm here to talk about how not to keep choosing the wrong partner, especially if you choose narcissists. My name's Heather Garbutt and I'm a love and relationship coach. Please give me a like or a a hashtag replay and I'll know that you'll see me and it gives me an idea of who's here and what you need. So I'm going to talk about how you break the pattern of choosing the wrong partner. I want you to be able to see them coming and know who is a good fit for you and who isn't. I receive this