Habits for Your Happily Ever After: Relationship Communication Advice

In this show we’ll discussHow you might be shoving in your relationship without realizing itYou'll get a date night discussion prompt about what makes a good invitationHow often do you use the word “should” in your relationship?Using the word “should” is a protective move. You’re trying to protect how vulnerable you feel. But your spouse experiences the word “should” as a shove, rather than as the invitation you’re intending.Change one word and you’ll change your relationship.The Habit for Your

In this episode:You’ll hear a story about earned love vs love that’s freely given and why keeping score in your marriage also keeps love out of reach.You’ll get a laughter challengeAnd I’ll introduce a new segment–Communication Breakdowns/Breakthroughs–and ask for your participation.How do you keep score in your relationship?Do you give yourself a tally mark when you clean the kitchen?Do you dock your spouse when they don’t?Do you count the times you’ve had sex thenwaitbecausethis timeit’s your

Resistance is a joy thief. We resist what we don’t want. Things like doing the dirty dishes or a spouse who doesn’t initiate sex. One of the best strategies for resisting these things is blame. When you blame your spouse for the dishes or the lack of sex in your relationship you feel righteous. But you have no joy. I’ll give you a controversial strategy for why you shouldn’t rush yourself to stop blaming in moments like this and how to seduce joy to return to your life.

Heather feels insecure and full of fear because Sean won't help her try out a new swimming pool. Sean is insecure because he feels like Heather is trying to change him and is no longer attracted to him. Funny thing is, their fears keep them from seeing their spouse's desire. Their fears are putting a halt to their sex life.Habit for your happily ever after: practice the Clean Ask Formula to expose fear. Date-night-discussion: How can you use laughter to banish fear in your relationship?

I introduce how Habits for Your Happily Ever After came to be. As a child of divorce, I felt caught in the messy communication between my parents. I talk about the marriage I created based on trying to shake off the divorce residue I grew up with. And I give an overview of what you can expect from my podcast: date-night-discussion prompts & a tiny habit to support the journey of cultivating your unique happily ever after.