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The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

The Post-Separation Abuse PodcastHosted by Danielle BlackA direct, evidence-based podcast for people navigating all-things separation and divorce, including; post-separation abuse, family violence, parenting, property settlement and the family law system - with a relentless focus on protecting children and building a life beyond separation. Because, the advice your lawyer gives you is only the beginning. Family law tells you what the system can do. This podcast helps you understand what to seek,

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35:08

104. If their name was Brian: family violence in...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/05/13

There is a phrase I have heard, in various forms, from many of my clients over the years: "If her name was Brian instead of Barb, the recognition and response would have been completely different." That phrase is the whole problem, distilled into one sentence. This solo episode is for two audiences at once. The first is every woman who has experienced family violence or post-separation abuse perpetrated by a female partner - and who has watched as professionals, police, and even community bys...

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52:28

103. What Mother's Day actually looks like when...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/05/07

This Mother's Day episode is for every mother who knows the day might be complicated. For the mothers without orders, whose former partners simply deny contact on Mother's Day. For the mothers who get a few hours - children dropped in the morning, collected later that same day, no unhurried time for the burnt toast or the homemade card. For the mothers whose former partners will withhold the children; yet again prioritising themselves and their own desire for revenge over the needs and ...

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57:49

102. Everyone has a biggest problem - Why your pain...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/04/29

In this episode, Danielle unpacks something that comes up constantly in her work with clients: the tendency to invalidate our own pain by comparing it to someone else's. To stay in situations that are harmful - not because we can't leave, but because leaving feels harder than staying. To choose the familiar difficulty, the 'comfortable discomfort', over the unfamiliar one, without ever consciously naming it as a choice. Because here is the truth: everything is hard. Staying is hard. Leaving i...

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36:42

101. AI tools for protective parents: Claude.ai,...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/04/22

What if you had access to a specialist coaching resource trained in coercive control, the Australian family law system, attachment science, and nervous system regulation - any time of day or night, at no additional cost? In this episode, Danielle Black introduces AI Danielle - the digital coaching resource built for the Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ - and does something she's never done before on this podcast: has a live, unscripted conversation with her on air. This is not a demo. Thi...

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34:27

100. The game is the same - 17 Years, 100 Episodes,...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/04/16

One hundred episodes. In this milestone episode, Danielle Black does something she has never quite done before - she tells the full truth about where this work came from, what it has cost, and why she hasn't walked away. More than seventeen years ago, Danielle was a young mother with a 12-month-old son. She was told by a family lawyer to agree to the 50/50 care arrangements that her abusive ex was demanding. She developed C-PTSD. She kept her phone on silent for a decade because the sound of ...

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24:40

99. Why your family lawyer can't do what you actually...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/04/08

Your lawyer is not trying to find the truth. And once you understand why - once you really understand how the adversarial legal system is designed and what it is and isn't built to deliver - everything changes. In this episode, Principal Coach Danielle Black explores one of the most misunderstood dynamics in family law: the gap between what parents expect from their legal team and what lawyers are actually trained and tasked to do. It's not a failing of your lawyer. It's the design of the sys...

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24:39

98. How I did it - Dating after abuse, self-trust,...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/04/01

Dating after domestic violence, coercive control, or post-separation abuse is one of the most under-discussed topics in the survivor space. Most people are somewhere between terrified and convinced it's simply not possible for them. In this honest, personal episode, Danielle Black shares what dating after abuse actually looked like from the inside - not a glossy highlight reel, but the real experience of venturing back into connection while still afraid. This episode explores: Why "my picker ...

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43:06

97. Can you find a healthy relationship after abuse?...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/03/25

Healthy relationships after family violence, and in the midst of post-separation abuse, are possible - but they are rarely talked about honestly in survivor spaces. In this special anniversary episode, Danielle Black is joined by her husband Drew for a candid conversation about what it actually looks like to build a safe, equal partnership after coercive control, trauma, and years of family court proceedings. This episode does not offer a fairy tale. It offers something more useful: evidence....

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38:21

96. Family reports are not the verdict: What...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/03/18

Family Reports can be influential pieces of evidence in Australian family court proceedings - but they are widely misunderstood. In this episode, Danielle Black explains what Family Report Writers are actually assessing, why protective parents can be misread and mischaracterised, and how nervous system responses to trauma can impact presentation in interviews. Drawing on lived experience and years of supporting parents through the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia, Danielle explor...

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34:29

95. The collaboration question: When it works, and...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/03/11

Collaboration is often presented as the gold standard after separation. Parents are encouraged to communicate openly, compromise, and "work together". In the right circumstances, a collaborative approach can indeed produce faster, less adversarial, and more sustainable outcomes. But what happens when the conditions for genuine collaboration don’t exist? In this episode of The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast, Danielle Black explores the realities behind collaborative approaches, including mediat...

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41:44

94. The invisible architecture of childhood: What...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/03/07

International Women’s Day bonus episode In this special episode, Danielle Black explores something rarely named in conversations about parenting after separation: the invisible architecture of childhood. The planning. The anticipating. The emotional holding. The daily mental load of raising children that rarely appears in legal documents, mediation rooms, or parenting orders. Across decades of research, we know that primary caregivers - most often mothers - carry the majority of this invisibl...

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34:31

93. Divorce coaching, narcissism & high-conflict...

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2026/03/05

What does a divorce coach actually do - and how do you know if the support you’re choosing after separation is right for your situation? In this episode of The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast, principal coach Danielle Black unpacks the rapidly growing world of divorce coaching, high-conflict separation support, and post-separation parenting guidance. As more professionals begin using the label “coach,” many separating parents are left wondering who to trust and what kind of support they actuall...

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68:31

92. Intrusive thoughts & rumination after separation:...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/02/26

Intrusive thoughts. Rumination. The relentless "what if" loops that keep you awake at night. If you’re a protective parent navigating separation, family court, or post-separation abuse, you are not broken - your brain is responding to chronic stress and uncertainty. But how do you know when intrusive thoughts are a normal stress response… and when they require professional mental health support? In this episode, Principal Coach Danielle Black unpacks: • The difference between intrusive though...

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29:03

91. Stronger, Braver Together: How safe,...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/02/18

In this episode, Principal Coach Danielle Black is joined by Senior Coaches Brigid Morgan and Trudie Hargrave to explore what meaningful, professionally held group support actually looks like in post-separation parenting work. Many parents navigating separation want connection - but feel cautious about online forums, unmoderated social media groups, or advice shared without professional understanding of the family law landscape. Following on from last week’s discussion about neuroplasticity a...

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37:15

90. Put on your own cape: Rewiring survival patterns,...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/02/12

If you’ve experienced high-conflict separation, coercive control, other forms of family violence or post-separation abuse, your brain has adapted to help you survive. But survival wiring can make advocacy, decision-making, and communication inside legal and family systems feel overwhelming. In this episode, Danielle Black explains the science of neuroplasticity and how protective parents can intentionally rebuild capacity, confidence, and internal stability - even when external outcomes feel ...

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36:27

89. Meet Senior Coach Brigid Morgan: Protective...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/02/04

In this episode, Danielle is joined by Senior Coach Brigid Morgan for a warm, honest conversation about post-separation recovery, protective parenting, and why evidence-based, child-focused support matters. We start with a light-hearted chat (morning person or night owl? coffee or tea? beach or mountains?) before moving into deeper conversation about Brigid’s personal post-separation journey, what led her into coaching, and why she is passionate about helping parents step into their role as t...

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15:42

88. Considering separation? Let’s talk about the...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/01/30

Considering Separation in 2026? Let’s Talk About the Decision You’re Already Making If you’re listening to this episode, chances are the question isn’t “Should I leave?” It’s “Why am I still here - and what is this costing me and my children?” In this episode, I speak directly to parents who are contemplating separation in 2026 - especially those who have been living in chronic high-conflict, coercive, or emotionally unsafe relationships and are quietly carrying the weight of indecision. We u...

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33:41

87. Welcome to 2026: What protective parents need to...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2026/01/23

2025 was a big year - for families navigating separation, and for the work we do here at Danielle Black Coaching. In this episode, I’m welcoming you into 2026 by reflecting on what we learned in 2025, what’s coming next, and - most importantly - how to use support wisely as a post-separation parent. I share: Key reflections from 2025 and what they revealed about what parents actually need after separationWhat’s planned for 2026 across coaching, education, and small-group supportFeedback from ...

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10:55

86. Information vs Integration - Why consuming...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2025/12/11

It’s easy to listen to podcasts, read posts on socials, and consume information… but none of that automatically turns you into the credible, strategic, protective parent you need to be in a post-separation, coercive-control landscape. In this episode, Danielle explores the critical difference between knowing and doing, and why true protective capacity comes from integration, practice, documentation, and nervous system leadership - not passive consuming. If you’ve ever felt informed but still ...

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12:24

85. Why being strategic, and well-informed, saves you...

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast ·

2025/12/11

Most parents assume that family law is financially exhausting because lawyers and court processes are inherently expensive. But that's not the full story. Legal fees explode when parents approach their matter reactively instead of strategically. In this powerful episode, Danielle breaks down the core drivers of legal cost blowouts - emotional emails, unclear communication, poorly structured evidence, last-minute affidavits, crisis thinking, and relying on lawyers to interpret chaos rat...

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