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The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne

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Weekly insights on children and parenting from Simplicity Parenting author Kim John Payne.

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#272: Self Care - Not Neglecting Our Own Needs -...

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/07/24

In the first of a three-part series on Emotional Self-Regulation, Kim John Payne reflects on the quiet power of micro self-care - small, intentional moments that help parents replenish their emotional reserves. He shares how the early demands of parenting often push self-care to the margins, yet carving out even brief pauses to do something nourishing can build a foundation for greater resilience. Whether it’s a mindful walk, a short moment with a book, or simply sitting with a cup of tea,

11:25

#271: If Not Now When - Responding To Requests &...

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/07/17

In this episode, Kim John Payne explores the importance of helping children learn to delay their requests and respect the timing of others. Rather than always responding immediately or brushing kids off with a vague “in a minute,” Kim encourages parents to offer clear, specific guidance on when they can give their full attention. He offers practical phrases and techniques for children of different ages, emphasizing that this approach builds impulse control and sets children up for success

7:08

#270: Aggression Entrapment - How to Work Through...

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/07/09

In this episode, Kim John Payne explores a dynamic he calls “aggression entrapment,” where a child’s meltdown becomes a way to secure a parent’s full attention. He explains that frequent meltdowns can signal a child’s need for stronger, more consistent parental presence—not just during crises, but in everyday connection. Rather than becoming entangled in the emotional intensity, Kim suggests offering presence without engagement. He encourages parents to stay nearby and calm, perhaps folding

8:22

#269: The Art of De-escalation - Walking Away vs...

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/07/04

In this episode, Kim John Payne explores how parents can navigate escalating situations without making a child feel abandoned. He draws a clear distinction between “walking away” in frustration and “stepping back” with intention. The latter offers a child the reassurance that their parent is still emotionally present, even while taking space to calm down. Kim encourages parents to model the ability to pause and reset—something we often ask children to do. He suggests preparing for these

15:06

#268: Helping Older Siblings Feel Secure When a New...

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/06/25

In this episode, Kim shares thoughtful ways to support an older child when a newborn joins the family. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining closeness through physical touch and preserving familiar family rhythms. Parents are encouraged to be intentional about cuddling, storytelling, and small rituals, so that the older sibling continues to feel secure and included. One particularly touching suggestion is to tell stories about the older child’s babyhood, helping them feel seen and

6:31

#267: Caring for an Older Sibling When a New Baby...

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/06/20

9:42

#266: Giving Children Time and Space to Wonder

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/06/12

Kim reflects on the beauty and importance of slow learning. He invites parents to protect and nurture a child’s natural tendency to wonder, observe, and inquire. Instead of immediately reaching for quick answers through digital means, he suggests creating space for questions to unfold over time. One idea he shares is keeping a “wondering notebook,” where children can write or draw the things they are curious about. These questions can later be explored together, perhaps through library

9:42

#265: Children's Big Feelings

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/06/04

In this episode, Kim John Payne explores how young children experience emotions as full-body states, rather than isolated feelings they can easily identify and name. He expresses concern about the modern emphasis on naming emotions with young children, noting that their brain development often does not support this level of emotional analysis. Instead of asking children to explain or label their feelings, he encourages parents to simply be present, co-regulate, and help their child move

11:03

#264: Another Way to Understand It

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/05/21

Kim offers a fresh perspective on childhood anger, inviting parents to view it as a natural attempt to restore emotional balance. Anger may surface when a child feels powerless, ignored, or overwhelmed, and while it can be loud or disruptive, it is not something to fear. Using the metaphor of a blacksmith’s forge, Kim explains how parents can stay close without getting swept into the heat of the moment. Their calm presence acts like the blacksmith who patiently shapes the molten metal. With

10:39

#263: The Hidden Treasures of Previewing

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/05/14

In this episode, Kim expands on the idea of previewing as a key parenting tool that brings calm and predictability to family life. He describes two types of previews: larger ones that look ahead to the day or week and smaller, moment-to-moment ones that guide children gently through transitions. Previewing helps children develop an inner picture of what’s to come, which in turn reduces anxiety and fosters co-regulation. This shared picture builds trust, soothes nervous systems, and even

13:28

#262: The Four "Its" of Problem Solving

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/05/07

Kim introduces four steps for navigating tough moments with children: calm it down, work it out, put it right, and move it on. He emphasizes starting with calm, as no real problem-solving can happen when emotions are high. These steps offer a grounded way to support emotional regulation and connection.❤️Support the Podcast 📑Simplicity Parenting Starter Kit 📲Request a Consultation with Kim John Payne 📚Simplicity Parenting Book Store

10:39

#261: No. You Do It!

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/04/30

In this episode we hear how to help a child who insists on being helped do things they are perfectly capable of doing themselves, and how to support them in finding ways to problem solve and build greater agency and competency.📓 Discipline & Guidance Care Professionals Seminar ❤️Support the Podcast 📑Simplicity Parenting Starter Kit 📲Request a Consultation with Kim John Payne 📚Simplicity Parenting Book Store

14:01

#260: Bed Time Hostage Taking

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/04/25

In this episode we explore why children cling on to a parent at bedtime and refuse to sleep unless they mom/dad/caregiver is laying next to them. As always we hear about ways to help this tendency that mainly relate to establishing times of connection throughout the day.📓 Discipline & Guidance Care Professionals Seminar ❤️Support the Podcast 📑Simplicity Parenting Starter Kit 📲Request a Consultation with Kim John Payne 📚Simplicity Parenting Book Store

10:19

#259: Plan B - Helping Tweens & Teens Adjust

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2025/04/16

Plan B - Helping Tweens & Teens Adjust: In this episode we explore how to help tween and teens develop a plan for when things go wrong and how to adjust in order to keep moving towards their goal.📓 Discipline & Guidance Care Professionals Training ❤️Support the Podcast 📑Simplicity Parenting Starter Kit 📲Request a Consultation with Kim John Payne 📚Simplicity Parenting Book Store

15:59

#258: Getting Our Timing Right

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/04/09

In this episode we explore how to sense when the moment is right to give a simple day-to-day instruction, or to have one of “those” talks that every parent need to do from time to time.📓 Discipline & Guidance Care Professionals Training ❤️Support the Podcast 📑Simplicity Parenting Starter Kit 📲Request a Consultation with Kim John Payne 📚Simplicity Parenting Book Store

17:33

#257: Restraint Collapse After the School Day

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/04/02

In this episode we discuss the concept of restraint collapse and the need for decompression points to help children manage their stress. Kim also emphasizes the importance of setting up a predictable and structured after-school rhythms to ease restraint collapse. Additionally, Kim suggested incorporating decompression points and providing a calm environment to help children manage their stress and anxiety during the school day.📓 Discipline & Guidance Care Professionals

10:45

#256: Talking Through Things With Tween & Teens

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/03/26

When issues come up with tween and teens, how can we have conversations with them that help them feel safe to participate and work things through.❤️Support the Podcast 📑Simplicity Parenting Starter Kit 📲Request a Consultation with Kim John Payne 📚Simplicity Parenting Book Store

12:55

#255: Exaggerating-Amplifying-Conflating

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2025/03/19

In this episode we explore why children can enlarge their accounts of what happened when things went wrong. We break it down to three tendencies and what we can do to help a child gain a better and more accurate perspective of what happened and how we can work through the trouble spots events to a better understanding.❤️Support the Podcast 📑Simplicity Parenting Starter Kit 📲Request a Consultation with Kim John Payne 📚Simplicity Parenting Book Store

11:44

#254: Why Kids Whine & What We Can Do To Shift the Habit

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2025/03/12

Kids who relentlessly complain and whine can often get on a parents nerves no matter how well balanced we are. In this episode we explore why kids whine and what we can do to help them move beyond this habit to feel more seen, heard and connected to a parent. ❤️Support the Podcast 📑Simplicity Parenting Starter Kit 📲Request a Consultation with Kim John Payne 📚Simplicity Parenting Book Store

13:39

#253: Turn Hurting Into Helping & Healing Words & Action

The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne ·

2025/03/05

In this episode we explore how to shift hurtful words and actions by calling up the helpful and healing moments that a child, tween or teen brought to those around them, and how this helps us stay well oriented and regulated even in difficult parenting moments.❤️Support the Podcast 📑Simplicity Parenting Starter Kit 📲Request a Consultation with Kim John Payne 📚Simplicity Parenting Book Store

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