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Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction

Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst

The Overcoming Betrayal and Addiction podcast, featuring Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami VerHelst, presents a conversational Q&A style discussion drawn from listener questions about sex and porn addictions, infidelity, cheating, and hard work required to heal relationship betrayal. Dr. Rob and Tami are very good at engaging people struggling with painful life issues in a useful, respectful way. They also invite you to join them on their live weekly webinar (Mondays, 5 p.m. Pacific at

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All Episodes

55:22

Lying Will Not Help You Regain Trust

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2024/11/21

Dr. Rob and Tami break down the details of honesty – when, why and how you must tell the truth to begin reestablishing trust with your betrayed partner. Recovering addicts often take breaks in their recovery meetings and goals only to discover that they have taken serious steps backward as a result. Prioritizing the 12 Step program is essential to recovery and is also a sign that the addict is prioritizing their partner as well. TAKEAWAYS: [0:44] If sex addiction is so prevalent, why are there so

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55:34

I Want to Leave, But….

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2024/11/14

Dr. Tami is joined by Kristen Snowden, a licensed trauma therapist who works with addicts and their betrayed partners. Kristen shares questions for the betrayed to ask themselves when working through the process of deciding whether to stay or go. Shame, hurt and fear can accompany the choice to leave just as persistently as it can for someone who chooses to stay, and her questions can help the betrayed find clarity in the face of this life-altering decision. TAKEAWAYS: [0:25] Blame and shame

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59:44

How and When Can We Connect Intimately Again?

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2024/11/07

Dr. Rob and Tami consider the timeline many couples face when traveling the road of recovery – how and when does it make sense to connect intimately again? Too often the addicted partner is ready to move into the future without allowing appropriate time for healing from the pain and betrayal of the past. How can couples recover and reconcile together in healthy and healing ways? TAKEAWAYS: [0:27] I’m turned on by women that look nothing like my wife. What does this mean about my arousal

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54:33

How Do I Know When It’s Time to Get Help?

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2024/10/31

Dr. Rob and Tami discuss the arousal template and the meaning behind escalation in addiction. Behaviors themselves are rarely as important as the reasons why the behavior is happening in the first place. What steps does an addict need to take to stop acting out in addictive and harmful ways? How can all involved parties get the support that they need when working through trauma, and where should the intimacy focus be placed in every step of recovery? TAKEAWAYS: [0:25] My husband’s porn addiction

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57:45

Is My Sex Addict’s Empathy Actually Gaslighting?

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2024/09/12

Dr. Rob and Tami explore some questions from sex addicts and betrayed partners about trust, intimacy, gaslighting, and disclosure. Dr. Rob highlights the difference between addictive behaviors and sexual preferences, offers a realistic timeline for full disclosure and healing, and explains (again) that there is nothing a partner can do to force an addict to act out. Dr. Rob has written a number of addiction books and explains which one would be most beneficial to whom, and offers additional support

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01:01:04

Is It My Fault He Cheated On Me?

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2024/08/01

Dr. Rob and Tami answer some of their community’s questions about addiction, betrayal, and more. In this episode, Dr. Rob explains the difference between intimacy and sex, why certain types of men/addicts cheat, and why the partners’ of addicts often self-blame; but it is completely not their fault. If you’re looking for additional support, Seeking Integrity has a number of free resources for both people with sex/porn addiction as well as their betrayed partners on the Seeking Integrity website.

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01:00:16

When Do I Need Help for My Addiction?

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2024/06/27

Dr. Rob and Tami share what a couple can expect when they sit down and talk with Dr. Rob in person or over Zoom when they are ready to address their infidelity and addiction issues. How do you know if a residential treatment is right for you? What do you do when your spouse still continues to lie to you after formal disclosure? All these questions answered, and more! TAKEAWAYS: [0:45] How long does it take to rewire a porn-addicted mind? [4:50] Addicts think, ‘they can’t live without this’ but

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59:48

I Just Love My Addict Spouse, But Yet They Always...

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2024/05/30

Erin Snow, Clinical Director for Seeking Integrity, joins Tami on this episode to help talk about the importance of internal and regulation work, while also healing your hurt inner child. She speaks to betrayed spouses who are in love or have grief from loving their addict spouse, and more in today’s episode. TAKEAWAYS: [1:45] He claims to be sober, but he’s doing nothing to be sober? [4:00] Men struggle to create intimate bonds with other men. [15:50] It takes work to counteract what the brain

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01:05:45

FAQ for 12-Step Programs for Sex Addicts Answered in...

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2024/05/06

Tami and Scott, the Director of Content Development at Seeking Integrity, answer some common questions people new to recovery might have. They cover everything from the difference in SA 12-step programs, what to look for, and what types of resources are available for SA-specific individuals and their betrayed spouses. TAKEAWAYS: [1:45] Today’s episode covers common questions around the 12-step program. [3:25] A 12-step program teaches us how to be honest with ourselves and others. [3:45] Why

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52:21

My Sex Addict Says It’s All My Fault; Is This True?

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2024/04/25

Dr. Rob and Tami answer questions from sex addicts as well as betrayed spouses to help them through some of their biggest struggles this week. One question in particular stands out. A betrayed partner has been beaten down verbally by her sex addict. She has been internalizing messaging that his actions are her fault, along with her not being physically attractive or ‘good enough’. Dr. Rob and Tami offer advice for this woman and how she can seek resources to heal from the actions of her addict.

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35:25

I Am Married to an Addict and I Don’t Want to Break...

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2023/12/14

Dr. Rob and Tami talk about a young mother of two who is struggling to deal with her acting out and abusive husband. She doesn’t want to break up the family and she’s scared for her future, but Dr. Rob and Tami offer a beacon of hope in what should be some of her next steps. TAKEAWAYS: [1:05] After a betrayal, when does it make sense to have sexual intimacy again? [9:35] He’s blaming me for his addiction and he’s relapsed. I don’t want to break up the family, so what should I do? [15:40] Remember,

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35:10

He Betrayed Me And Yet Believes All The Flirting He...

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2023/12/07

Dr. Rob and Tami talk about how an addict might be skirting the boundaries with his betrayed wife. Is flirtation seen as an active addiction, especially when the addict does it when his wife’s not around? The 1# thing addicts love is attention and/or admiration. So, they might be a little sneaky in how they get their fix. TAKEAWAYS: [:25] She says I ruined her life. Can I salvage this relationship? [7:45] I don’t have a lot of money. Why is a CSAT necessary for my recovery? [14:45] I’m acting out

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26:22

He Feels So Uncomfortable In Recovery. Will It Get...

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2023/11/30

Dr. Rob and Tami talk about why someone might feel uncomfortable in recovery. A betrayed spouse was asked by her addict to join a couple’s support group, but after all the positive praise she was getting, he told to stop going. Dr. Rob and Tami break down how couple’s support groups can be a life-changing and positive experience for couples, but only if they embrace the not-so-comfortable parts of it. TAKEAWAYS: [1:15] My addict asked me to join a couple’s support group, but after he saw all the

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22:32

I Have a Restraining Order. Is There Any Hope He’ll...

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2023/11/23

Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a betrayed spouse in her 50s. She has been a stay-at-home mother for 23 years and is having a tough time reconciling the ending of the relationship with her violent addict. Is the relationship really over despite a temporary restraining order? Can this be salvaged? Dr. Rob and Tami weigh in their thoughts during this horrible time. TAKEAWAYS: [:25] How do I apologize to my children for being a bad parent? [2:45] How do you define recovery? [8:35] Does sex

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30:24

The Separate Journeys of Couples in Recovery

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2023/11/21

Dr. Rob and Tami answer listener questions about getting back together in sobriety, support for the betrayed wife, getting to know each other in recovery, taking your recovery seriously, and not asking forgiveness but making amends. Every lie resets the relationship to the beginning of betrayal. When is the right time for couples therapy? TAKEAWAYS: [:23] My SA husband’s one-year sobriety date is today. It’s also my one-year discovery date. He is in recovery. Where are couples at the one-year

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31:48

Am I Just Having Fun, or Is This a Full-Blown Addiction?

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2023/11/08

Dr. Rob and Tami break down the gray area between just having fun, being “at-risk” for an addiction, and being a full-blown addict. It can be difficult to define the line fully when you’re in the middle of a “good time.” Dr. Rob offers various considerations for you to think about to determine whether you’re barely teetering the line or if you’re in a bad and unsustainable place. TAKEAWAYS: [:35] I believe my partner is a narcissist and a sex addict. He’s hurting me but I can’t seem to walk away

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26:50

My Wife Has a Pattern of Infidelity, but I Love Her

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2023/11/03

Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a betrayed partner about his wife’s recurring infidelity. What first begins as innocent text messages with a stranger quickly turn sexual for her. It’s a pattern that has repeated over and over. As he is trying to save the relationship, he wonders if this is all due to her traumatic and awful past where she was a victim of sexual abuse as a child. Dr. Rob clarifies on what might be going on with a female sex addict. TAKEAWAYS: [:35] My wife goes through the

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32:30

She Cheated on Me! And Yet, I’m the One in Recovery?

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2023/10/26

Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from an addict who has also been betrayed by his spouse. They have both hurt each other with their addictions/infidelities, however, it seems unfair that he’s in treatment for his demons and she is running around scot-free. Dr. Rob and Tami explain how you can move forward and focus on your own recovery despite experiencing a betrayal from your partner. TAKEAWAYS: [:45] I’m absolutely DONE with my addict. I can’t move out yet, so what can I do for my own safety

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31:34

Why Should I Write Down All My Anger and Hurt?

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2023/10/20

Dr. Rob and Tami talk about the healing properties a journal practice can have. A listener wrote that her therapist wants her to journal out the resentment and anger that her SA has caused her, but the mere thought of doing this gets her re-triggered and angry all over again. Is there really a point to all of this aside from re-remembering the betrayal? TAKEAWAYS: [:25] My SA husband’s entire family has suffered from some sort of sexual addiction or abuse. Is all of this hereditary? [8:30] How

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28:48

Can Harm Reduction Be Considered Sober?

Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction ·

2023/10/11

Dr. Rob and Tami talk about whether it makes sense for an addict to be put on a harm reduction treatment for sex addiction. A listener writes in wondering if he should completely stop or if reducing the impact and damage through harm reduction is a good starting point. Dr. Rob sets the record straight on what he thinks about harm reduction and honesty. TAKEAWAYS: [:45] My partner admitted he’s a liar and a cheater, but will not admit he’s an addict. He doesn’t “relate” to it. Will he ever be

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