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185. Birth Is A Scene

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2026/10/02

Lina has surfaced from the liminal space of postpartum to get on the mic and share a Very Kinky Birth Story with you. No it was not a sexy, orgasmic birth but rather kink in the way we practice it around here — an all-encompassing way of holding your tenderest parts through all the huge shit life throws at you. Listen for the many analogues between births and scenes, lessons learned in the birth pool, and, as always, mantras for being kinder to ourselves along the way. PATREON BECKONS… BABY -

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184. Pervertibles For The People

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2026/09/19

A caller wants to know how to do kink on a budget so STRAP IN because Lina is fresh off a tear through the outer rings of reddit with vetted ideas and strategies not only for creating your own pervertibles out of everyday objects, but for how to make smart, budget-conscious decisions about what size of flogger to splurge on when you've saved your pennies. Just please, for the love of god, do not put anything without a flared base in your butt. This is how you become a meme and not in a good way

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180. Chronic Kinkster Community In Action

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2026/09/13

A caller has just gone through a breakup and is facing down a new chronic illness diagnosis all at once, and wants to know how to incorporate kink into life when everything feels like too much. Lina tag teams this question using the wisdom of the #chronic-kinksters channel on the Ask A Sub Discord server, focusing on how to curate an expansive mindset while still making sure you're getting your needs met, tending to yourself, and being your own Daddy in hard times. Lina is currently on maternity

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179. Grey's Journey Pt. 3: Break That Binary Open

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2026/09/05

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we're closing out Grey's journey with some very exciting summer news, a scene that brought the educator within to the surface, and a manifesto for the future of Grey's drag. Follow him at @greytheteaman. Lina & Mr. Dune's Pillion convo is available on Patreon and Substack. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that,

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178. Grey's Journey Pt. 2: The Duality of Being Known

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2026/08/29

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we're catching up with Grey as he heads out in the midst of a snowstorm, ready to be PERCEIVED. Where? Where else but a Heated Rivalry rave. The horny queers are out, and your boy is among them. Tune in to see what happens, and follow him at @greytheteaman. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a

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177. Grey's Journey Pt. 1: How Does an Adult Man F*ck?

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2026/08/14

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week we meet Grey, a trans man at the beginning of his medical transition who's seeking to answer the eternal questions in life — how do we take up space while still finding ourselves? How binary should gender even be? And, most importantly, how does an adult man fuck? Follow him at @greytheteaman. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious

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176. Kinky Rejection… Worse Than Death? (Sources Say...

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2026/08/09

A caller wants to know why kinky rejection hurts more than any other rejection and wonders if maybe, possibly, there's a way to avoid it?? Asking for a friend?? Lina gets into some solid reasons why the ouch is so ouch, how to make it ouch in a good way, and how to apply some time-honored strategies to healing the ouch. Say 'ouch' again…. Ouch. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and

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175. M's Journey Pt. 3: It's That Slow Burn Bullshit

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2026/07/31

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we hear the final installment of M's journey, and learn about what roles softball, juggalos, and witchcraft have to play in a life well lived in a room of one's own. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are

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174. M's Journey Pt. 2: Sit With the Itch

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2026/07/17

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we're catching up with M a few months on from her first interview, to check in on her new life and cheer her on in her self care. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus

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173. M's Journey Pt. 1: The Worst Breakup Ever

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2026/07/10

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we meet M as she navigates the wreckage of what is truly one of the worst breakups Lina has ever heard about. But in spite of the male audacity in this episode, we promise you'll be inspired by M's humor, witchy wisdom, and iconic penchant for cussing her way through self care. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all

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172. A Beautiful Evil Pouring Out Of Me with Miss Gold

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2026/07/03

This month on the Deep Dive series, we're graced with the presence of one of London's preeminent kink queens Miss Gold — Dominatrix, photographer and creator of the iconic One Night parties.. She shares with us how her SW career has influenced her photographic gaze, her specialty in *the kink* most people list as their hardest of hard limits, and her thoughts on mothering be it of humans or hand-reared kittens. In signature Ask A Sub style, this interview goes anywhere and everywhere and we know

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171. You Can't Step In The Same River Of Pee Twice

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2026/06/27

A caller is doing trauma therapy and wants a good lens to explain the value of kink in their healing journey. In response, Lina checks in on how we're interpreting the word 'healing' when it comes to kink (ableism — be gone!), gives some reflections on what kinds of messages our bodies give us in scenes, and somehow in the midst of that coined the phrase that is our episode title this week, once again making the English language just a little bit worse 🫶 You're welcome. Become a Patreon member to

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170. Daddy Is A State Of Mind

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2026/06/22

In honor of U.K. father's day we're getting into 'Daddy' as an honorific, whether it always implies age play (Sometimes? Yes? No?) and how nobody has to do anything they don't want to do but maybe getting curious is what saves us all from the shame monsters. Get the Summer Deep Dive schedule here Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and

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169. Don't Throw The Therapist Out With The Bathwater

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2026/06/14

A listener wants to know what to do about their well-meaning but vanilla therapist, and in response Lina earns her gold star Therapist's Favorite badge by exploring the ins and outs of the therapeutic relationship, how to resource your therapist and yourself, and takes a weirdly polyamory-informed stance on getting your needs met. Links: A Walker In LA | Murder Mystery Yacht Orgy | Summer Deep Dive Schedule Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord

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168. I'm Coming Out Of My Cage - Wait Put Me Back In...

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2026/06/06

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167. Lubing Up The Flirting Dipstick

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2026/05/30

This week we're doing a refresher on flirting so Lina can assist you all into getting into more trouble to keep the questions coming for the pod — vertical integration!! That's how that works, right?? Either way, we're talking about flirting by zodiac sign (helpful even if you're a grumpy Capricorn that doesn't believe in astrology), flirting to bring forward your most authentic self, and flirting as a measure of compatibility. Now go look at people and talk to them!! Become a Patreon member to gain

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166. High Volume Orgasms: Blessing Or Curse?

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2026/05/23

A caller wants to know whether their miraculous gift of nonstop orgasms is hindering them from long term partnership — really goes to show one person's dream scenario (Lina's) is another person's anxiety (this caller's)! Lina talks about the joys of dating high-volume cummers, lists practical tips for Domming and topping these lucky ducks, and shares how the patriarchy infects all of us when we imagine the limits of what a submissive can be. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A

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165. Quick Hits: "Straight-Passing" Queer Couple...

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2026/05/16

These week callers want to know how to welcome the springtime, how to enjoy/not enjoy the Met Gala, hack quiet sex, and, of course, see Lina lose it over exclusionary privileged queers being weird about who's allowed to use the label. Pull up a chair to the burn sesh (with love). Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.

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164. Submission But Not Like THAT

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2026/05/02

A listener is recovering from a religious culture that expected submission from women by default — how, then, can she trust her desire to be submissive in a consensual D/s dynamic? This week we're talking self trust, healing through kink, and Lina's deep desire to physically harm this caller's ex (for legal reasons this is a joke - ha ha) Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new

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163. Hedonism is a Moral Imperative with S.T. Gibson

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2026/04/24

On this month's Deep Dive, we're joined by S.T. Gibson, bestselling author of A Dowry of Blood, Savage Blooms, and more, who also hosts the Metaphysical Girl podcast/substack. Her approach to fantasy is intellectual, informed by her background in theology and deep thought about queerness and our insatiable hungers. Join us for our thoughts on fairies, vampires, and what to say to local river. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Submit questions

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