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Dad Starting Over

Dad Starting Over

Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you"re newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you"re still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you"re in the right place. I"m Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books including "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" "Red Flags" and "REBUILD: The

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54:25

High-Conflict Divorce: How to Stop Feeding the Fire

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2026/10/06

Stuck in a divorce or custody fight that never seems to end? Brook Olsen has spent 25 years helping parents get out of high-conflict divorces, and his main point is simple: every time you engage, you keep the fight going. Brook is the founder of the High Conflict Diversion Program and host of the High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast. He went through a high-conflict divorce himself. We talk about: - What makes a divorce "high conflict," and why custody drives most of it- Why gray rocking is

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18:16

Sexless Marriage Inevitable? She Sold Her "Hot Girl"...

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2026/10/02

A woman posted that her husband was "visibly and audibly sad" watching her sell off her pre-baby hot girl clothes. She thought it was funny. The internet piled on him for being a pig. Every married man in a dead bedroom read that and felt it in his gut.The woman he married was a sexy, fun, feminine creature. Then the kids came, and that side of her got boxed up and sold on Facebook Marketplace. Nobody asked him if he was okay with the trade.I've been working with men in sexless marriages

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78:23

The Dead Bedroom: What Women Aren't Taught (and Men...

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2026/09/29

Why does the passion fade after the wedding, the kids, or perimenopause, and what can you actually do about it?I sit down with Cassie, a pediatric occupational therapist and PhD fellow who teaches child development and attachment theory. She's also a high-libido woman with ADHD, so she knows this from both sides. We get into the brain chemistry behind desire, why "openness" may be the most important trait to look for in a partner, how church and family shape a woman's sexuality, weight and

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12:37

Sexless Marriage... She Got Happier The Moment I Gave Up

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2026/09/25

You stopped trying. You stopped reaching for her. And instead of the marriage cracking, she got happier. Lighter. Relieved. Just not with you. If your wife seemed to bloom the moment you stopped wanting her, this one's for you, brother. It's not proof you were the problem. It's information. And it points to two roads out.🔴 FREE: Fix Your Dead Bedroom (Instant PDF Download)https://go.helpformen.com/tl/545🔴 FREE COURSE: The Dead Bedroom Fix Coursehttps://deadbedroomfixcourse.com🔴 NEW!: The

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20:10

Why a Sexless Marriage Destroys an ADHD Man Faster...

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2026/09/25

It's 9:40 at night. You texted her about the weekend. She wrote back one word: "Sure." Three months ago that would have gotten you four paragraphs and a voice memo. Now you're standing in your kitchen with your heart going, and nothing is actually wrong.That's withdrawal.In this video I break down a pairing I see constantly in my inbox: the man with ADHD, whose brain runs on stimulation instead of importance, and the woman who floods him with more of it in ninety days than he's had in his

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17:03

Sexless Marriage… Why Her "Duty Sex" Is Destroying...

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2026/09/18

She still sleeps with you… so why do you feel more alone than ever? In this video we go after one of the most damaging traps in a sexless marriage: duty sex, or "pity sex." The flat, going-through-the-motions intimacy a lot of men accept because they tell themselves "at least it's something." Here's the hard truth: that "something" may be doing more damage to your self-esteem than getting nothing at all, and I'll show you exactly why, and what to do about it.This isn't about blaming you

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11:57

Sexless Marriage… She Says the Experts Agree With...

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2026/09/11

She told you the experts agree. That the healthiest couples stop having sex. That wanting your own wife makes you the problem. In this video I break down the wellness talking point being used to shut men down in dead bedrooms all over the country, why there's just enough truth in it to make you doubt yourself, and what's actually going on underneath it.Here's the short version: a sexless marriage can be healthy. If both people are okay with it. You're not okay with it. So the whole argument

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17:36

Sexless Marriage... "She's Just Stressed" Is Often...

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2026/09/04

"She's just stressed." The kids, the job, her mom, the move. You've been telling yourself that for seven years.Real stress comes and goes. The deadline passes, the mother-in-law goes home, and the couple that's actually okay finds their way back to each other. If yours survived three jobs, two houses, and one good year, it's not stress anymore. It's the climate.In this video I break down why "she's just stressed" is the most useful lie in a dead bedroom: what the stress story does for you

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48:24

"I Didn't Have A Self" | An Avoidant Wife Explains...

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2026/08/24

Kate is the admittedly avoidant partner to Tyler Ely, the anxious partner I had on a previous live stream. Tyler read The Dead Bedroom Fix, backed off, and started working on his own security. It helped. We heard his side. This one is hers.Three years ago they sat in therapy and talked about ending it. Today she cancels plans so she can be around him.What she gets into:Why she stopped believing him even while he was doing everything rightThe two books they handed each other, and how both

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13:12

Sexless Marriage... How Long Will You Wait For Her To...

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2026/08/14

He told himself the same thing for eleven years. Just hold on until the kids are grown, then we'll reconnect. The empty nest came. Nothing changed. In this one I read a real email from a 58-year-old man sitting in a silent house, asking if it's too late and whether he wasted his window. Then I walk through the final talk. When to have it, how to have it from a place of strength, and why "waiting it out" is the trap that costs men their best years.This isn't about blowing up your marriage

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50:35

She Wasn't Born Cold: Where Your Wife's Avoidance...

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2026/08/11

New series, new co-host. Cassie (https://x.com/FutureDrSassy) is an occupational therapist, a researcher, and a certified pelvic floor therapist — and starting now, she and I are going to have the conversations about sex and intimacy that nobody had with any of us growing up.This first one starts where all of it starts: childhood. What you watched your parents do — the hand-holding, the date nights, the kisses in the kitchen, or the total absence of all of it — became your blueprint. So

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16:58

Sexless Marriage… She Told Me To "Get It Somewhere...

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2026/08/07

His wife said it five or six times over the course of a year. "If you need it that bad, just go find it somewhere else." He sat her down one night and asked her to confirm it. She did. Twice.A few weeks later he had one phone call with an old friend from college. Ninety minutes. No flirting. Nothing physical. She was going through her own divorce and needed someone to talk to.A few days later, his wife went through his phone, found the unfamiliar number, and called it herself just to see

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57:54

Why Women Emasculate Men — and Why You Must NEVER...

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2026/08/03

Alison Armstrong has been studying men since 1991, when she caught herself bringing out the worst in them and assuming that's who men really were. Thirty-five years later, she's the author of The Queen's Code, the creator of the Understanding Men and Understanding Women courses, and most of her work is teaching WOMEN to stop emasculating men. This week she sat down with a channel full of guys rebuilding after divorce.We got into: why women are the aggressor in the so-called war between the

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16:20

Sexless Marriage... So I Stopped Initiating. She...

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2026/07/31

He stopped initiating six months ago. He told himself it was a test. He waited for her to notice. She never did.In this episode I break down what's actually going on when a husband quietly withdraws from his sexless marriage and his wife doesn't react. Spoiler: it's not what most guys think. It's not her being checked out for a week. It's data. And the data is loud.We cover:The quiet test most men eventually run Greg's email Why this wasn't really a test What her silence actually means]Why

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58:20

Chat LIVE with Ralph & Laura How: Attachment,...

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2026/07/27

A full hour LIVE with therapist and author Laura How — one of the very few women publicly saying what she says about sexless marriages. So few, in fact, that the wives in her own village have stopped saying hello.We covered a lot of ground: whether you should stay when the in-love feelings fade, why "I fell out of love" is usually an ego defense, what attachment dysfunction actually is (hint: it's arrested development, and it's everywhere), the rise of "the ick," why your algorithm has

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30:45

She Was Different Before Kids — What Actually...

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2026/06/12

Your wife changed after kids. You've felt it for years — the distance, the exhaustion, the version of her you remember from before that seems gone.She's not gone. She's buried.In this episode I break down what actually happens to women after having children — the hormonal shifts that suppress desire for years (not weeks), the identity collision that nobody warns her about, and the "touched out" phenomenon that makes her feel like her body isn't her own.I also share a personal story — a trip

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8:57

Sexless Marriage… Now She’s Always Going Out

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2026/05/29

A guy sent me an email that starts off like a lot of others…Sexless marriage. No intimacy. Growing distance.But then something changed.His wife started going out more.Dressing up.Staying out late.Acting like a completely different person.And he’s sitting at home wondering what the hell is going on.In this episode, I break down what it really means when a woman checks out of the relationship… and starts finding her energy somewhere else.We talk about:• Why behavioral shifts matter more than

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12:30

Sexless Marriage… Then I Saw the Text Messages

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2026/05/08

A husband wrote to me after 16 years of marriage.Their sex life had slowly faded until they were barely intimate at all.Then he noticed something strange.His wife became very protective of her phone.One day he looked.What he found wasn’t explicit cheating… but it explained a lot.In this episode we talk about:• Emotional affairs and how they begin• Why sexless marriages create vulnerability• What to do when you discover suspicious messages• Why confrontation often backfiresIf you’re dealing

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11:06

Why Women Remember Everything

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2026/05/01

Have you ever noticed how your wife or girlfriend can recall arguments from 10… 15… even 20 years ago with incredible detail?Not just the event itself.The exact words.The tone.Where you were standing.What you said.Meanwhile you're sitting there thinking, “I barely remember last week.”In this episode, I explain why this happens and why women often remember emotional events in relationships far longer than men do. It’s not just a stereotype. There are real psychological and biological reasons

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15:53

Sexless Marriage for Years… Now She Doesn’t Want to...

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2026/04/17

A 50-year-old husband wrote me after 20 years of marriage.The sex faded after kids.Intimacy disappeared.Now his wife says she doesn’t want to be touched at all.He stayed for their child.He worked out.He dressed better.He read The Dead Bedroom Fix.He tried to lead.But nothing changed.I break down what’s really happening when a marriage goes cold and a man slowly becomes passive without realizing it.We talk about:• Why staying “for the kids” often creates long-term damage• How passivity

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