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Dad Starting Over

Dad Starting Over

Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you"re newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you"re still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you"re in the right place. I"m Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books called "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" and "Red Flags". You can learn more

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10:21

Why Doing Everything Right Fails

Dad Starting Over ·

2026/02/13

A lot of men reach a point where they say something quietly and honestly:“I did everything right… and it still fell apart.”I hear this all the time from men who showed up, stayed loyal, worked on themselves, went to therapy, avoided conflict, and tried to be good partners.And yet the relationship still deteriorated.The attraction faded.The resentment crept in.I explain why “doing everything right” often becomes the problem.We’ll talk about:How being patient, understanding, and accommodating

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12:06

Why Your Marriage Became Sexless

Dad Starting Over ·

2026/02/06

Most men in sexless marriages did exactly what they were told to do.They opened up more.They communicated better.They became more emotionally available.They went to therapy.And somehow, the sex life didn’t come back.In many cases, it disappeared completely.In this episode, I explain why that happens — especially when you’re married to a dismissive-avoidant partner.We’ll talk about:Why “more emotional connection” can actually create less attractionHow anxious and avoidant attachment styles

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15:22

Why Men Believe Women Cheat More

Dad Starting Over ·

2026/01/30

A lot of men end up believing things like “women cheat more,” “women want sex more than men,” or “most women cheat”.Those beliefs don’t usually come from careful analysis.They come from pain.I break down why these stories feel so convincing — especially for analytical, system-oriented, and neurodivergent men — and why certainty often feels safer than ambiguity after betrayal, dead bedrooms, and relationship failure.We’ll talk about:why men gravitate toward black-and-white explanationshow

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81:51

My Live Chat with Melissa Vogel

Dad Starting Over ·

2026/01/27

In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Vogel — fitness and mindset coach, podcast host, and a woman who’s been through divorce herself — for one of the most honest conversations I’ve had about modern relationships.We talk about what really happens to marriages after kids arrive, why men and women slowly disconnect without realizing it, and how good people end up emotionally checked out years before divorce ever happens.Melissa opens up about her own marriage, why she drifted away

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7:16

Typical "Nice Guy" Behavior

Dad Starting Over ·

2026/01/23

A lot of men don’t realize they’re codependent.They just think they’re being “good husbands,” “nice guys,” or “doing the right thing.”I break down the real, everyday behaviors that point to codependency in men—especially how it shows up in relationships, dead bedrooms, anxious attachment, and emotional burnout.This isn’t about shaming men. It’s about recognizing patterns that quietly destroy attraction, confidence, and self-respect.If you:Walk on eggshells in your relationshipFeel

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12:19

Your Avoidant Wife Had an Affair (Here’s Why)

Dad Starting Over ·

2026/01/16

For an anxious guy, nothing is more confusing than discovering that your avoidant, seemingly asexual wife was having an affair.No touching. No sex. Years of rejection.And yet… she was sleeping with someone else.I break down a real message from a man in a long-term dead bedroom who discovered his dismissive-avoidant wife had been cheating for years. We dig into anxious vs. avoidant attachment, why this dynamic is so common, and why the affair usually has nothing to do with you lacking

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12:57

She Says She’s “Touched Out”… Except With Him

Dad Starting Over ·

2026/01/09

In today’s episode, I read an email from a husband living one of the most brutal modern realities: his wife says she’s “touched out” and has no energy for intimacy… yet somehow has unlimited emotional energy for another man at the gym.This is the pattern I see over and over in dead bedrooms:She didn’t lose desire.She redirected it.If you're a man dealing with a sexless marriage, emotional disconnect, or a wife who has checked out but won’t leave — this one’s going to hit hard.Grab my book

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16:53

Rejection Sensitivity: Why You Overthink Everything

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/12/26

Rejection hits some men harder than others. For a lot of guys, it’s not just discomfort—it feels like danger. One cold look from your wife. One delayed text. One “Can we talk later?” from your boss. Suddenly you’re spiraling, apologizing, chasing, overreacting, or completely shutting down.This isn’t weakness. It isn’t you being dramatic.It’s rejection sensitivity—and most men who grew up in chaotic, unpredictable, or emotionally unstable homes are living with it without ever knowing what

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5:55

REBUILD is now available in audiobook format! (here's...

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/12/16

"REBUILD: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man" is now available in audiobook format! Here is a quick sample for you to enjoy. Want to hear more? Check out the links below:Amazon: https://a.co/d/0k5nxmvAudible: https://www.audible.com/pd/B0G75ZH84YApple: https://apple.co/45eKbNh

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16:15

Andrew Wilson’s Meltdown Caught Live

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/11/28

Today we’re digging into something wild: how a guy who talks about masculinity, strength, and “doing it right” completely lost his cool when his own story was challenged. That guy is Andrew Wilson.If you’re rebuilding your life, your identity, or trying to walk the line of integrity after a setback—I promise you: this matters.We’ll cover:Who Andrew Wilson is and what he representsThe “rulebook” many men in the debate/manosphere space are handed (never date a single mom, don’t be a

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10:10

Why You Feel So Needy (And How to Stop)

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/11/21

Let’s talk about neediness — what it really is, where it comes from, and how to stop letting it ruin your relationships.Neediness isn’t about “having needs.” It’s about trying to make one specific person fix your emotional state on demand. That’s not love — that’s panic.I’ll walk you through what’s actually happening inside your nervous system when you feel desperate for someone’s attention or affection… and how to train yourself to stay calm, confident, and grounded instead.We’ll cover:The

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15:23

The One Thing Everyone Misses About Dead Bedrooms

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/11/07

Most guys in sexless marriages miss the most important piece of the puzzle. They think if they just get their wife to “want it” again, everything will go back to normal. But what if the truth goes all the way back to the beginning — before the wedding, before the kids — to whether the two of you were even matched in the first place?In this episode, I break down one of the biggest overlooked truths about dead bedrooms. We’ll talk about:Why early sexual chemistry predicts long-term

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15:40

REBUILD – The Beginning of a New Chapter

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/10/24

In this special episode, I read the introduction to my latest book, REBUILD: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man. This book is the culmination of over a decade of working with men—through coaching, the Brotherhood community, and my other books. REBUILD is for every man who’s been knocked down by life—divorce, heartbreak, failure—and is ready to rise again stronger, wiser, and more grounded.If you’ve ever felt lost or unsure of your next step, this episode is the perfect place to

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11:00

Stop Blaming the Affair Partner — She Made the Choice

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/10/17

A lot of men direct all their anger toward the other guy — the affair partner — when they find out their wife cheated. I get it. It feels easier to hate the outsider than to face what your wife actually did. But at some point, we need to be honest about where the real responsibility lies.In this episode, I respond to a man who wrote in saying he’s still furious at his wife’s affair partner, years after the infidelity ended. We talk about why misplaced anger keeps men stuck, why some “nice

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11:23

John’s Breaking Point: Why Some Men Stay in Miserable...

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/10/13

In today’s Dear DSO episode, I read a letter from a guy I’ll call John. He’s reached the end of his rope. His wife drinks heavily, refuses therapy, hasn’t been intimate with him in years, and contributes nothing to the family or household. Meanwhile, John’s doing it all — cooking, cleaning, parenting, working full-time — and he’s still trying to “make it work.”If you’ve ever found yourself trapped in a relationship like this, wondering what’s wrong with you for staying… this one’s going to

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9:49

When She Denies the Affair and Calls You “Insecure”

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/10/06

In this episode, I respond to a listener email from a man who caught his wife sneaking around with ‘just a friend.’ Even when confronted, she flips it on him and calls him insecure. Why do cheaters deny and gaslight instead of owning up? I break it all down—and talk about what men need to do in this situation.Submit your own story to Dear DSO.Join the HFM Brotherhood today!

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16:09

When a Wife Walks Away After 30 Years: Midlife...

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/10/03

In this episode, I respond to a listener email from a man whose wife left him after 33 years of marriage. She had an affair, moved 2,000 miles away, and says she’s finally living for herself. Is this midlife crisis? Perimenopause? Or just long-simmering resentment finally boiling over? I break it all down—and more importantly, talk about what men can do when blindsided like this.Submit your own story to Deardso.comJoin The HFM Brotherhood!

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11:37

“30 Years Married… But Now Just Roommates”

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/09/29

A man wrote in after 30+ years of marriage. Three kids, a successful career, a busy and interesting life—he’s fit, adventurous, and still chasing growth at 61 years old.The problem? His wife has completely checked out sexually. No intimacy, no affection, not even a kiss on the cheek. Even hormone therapy hasn’t changed anything. He loves her, doesn’t want divorce, but he’s dying inside.

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8:17

"She Slept With Me… So I Guess We’re Fine Now?"

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/09/19

A guy books an emergency coaching call. Says his marriage is hanging by a thread. He's sleeping in the guest room. She won’t talk to him. Full panic mode.Then when we finally meet? “Oh… never mind. We had sex last night. I think we’re good now.”Let me tell you something, fellas — if a single act of pity sex is enough to make you cancel your plan to fix your marriage… then the marriage was never getting fixed in the first place.In this video, we’re talking about:Why post-conflict sex feels

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11:40

Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Her (Even Though...

Dad Starting Over ·

2025/09/15

You ever catch yourself stuck in a mental loop? Replaying the breakup, the betrayal, the one thing she said that cut deep?That’s rumination — and it’s not helping you heal.In this video, I explain what rumination really is, why your brain gets stuck there, and how to break out of the loop before it drives you insane. We’ll look at the neuroscience, the psychology, and — most importantly — real ways to stop obsessing and start moving forward.This is for the guys lying awake at night asking

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