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I Wish You Knew

Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov

Join the duo, Andrey Korikov, and Adam Lane Smith The Attachment Specialist, as they cut through the noise with bold, unfiltered discussions on love, connection, and relationships. From questions about love, psychology, and relationships to discussing the latest shifts in the culture and media, they’ll cover it all. If you’re ready for a podcast that’s as insightful and real as it gets—buckle up and get ready to rethink everything you thought you knew about relationships!

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79:03

What Happens When Two Avoidants Fall in Love |...

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2026/10/01

Everyone said it could not work. Two avoidant people in the same relationship. Two people wired to pull back, protect themselves, and disappear the moment things get close. And then Carly and Mel proved everyone wrong.Adam Lane Smith sits down with couple Carly Randall and Mel Shingleton, two self-proclaimed avoidants, for a live coaching session that answers the question everyone in the comments has been asking: can two avoidant people actually build something real together? 🚨 My biggest coaching

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52:03

What God Wants From Men: How to Build True...

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2026/09/24

We have talked about masculinity and manhood on this show before. Today is the mature version of that conversation, going back to the oldest teachings we have.In this episode, attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith sits down with His Eminence Metropolitan Jonah, retired primate of the Orthodox Church in America, rector of St. Herman's Church and Abbot of St. Demetrios Monastery, for a conversation about what forms a man. 💬 Ready to work with me? Apply here:

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70:22

The Truth About ADHD VS Attachment Trauma in...

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2026/09/18

ADHD, attachment, trauma, anxiety, and stress can look surprisingly similar. So how do you know what you’re actually dealing with?Adam Lane Smith sits down with psychiatrist Dr. Steven Storage to unpack what ADHD really looks like, how it affects relationships, what a proper assessment involves, and where medication, sleep, nutrition, movement, and behavioral work fit in. 💬 Ready to work with me? Apply here:

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63:36

The Real Reason Your Husband Is Pulling Away | Laura...

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2026/09/11

Trying harder to fix your marriage can leave you exhausted, resentful, and convinced you’re married to a man who doesn’t care. In this episode of I Wish You Knew, Adam Lane Smith sits down with The Surrendered Wife author Laura Doyle to challenge what happens when fear turns into control, why stepping back can give a capable husband room to step forward, and how desire, receptivity, gratitude, and respect can change the dynamic between husband and wife.💬 Ready to work with me? Apply here:

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54:06

How to Get Out of Your Head and Feel Like Yourself...

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2026/08/27

Disembodiment rarely announces itself. It can look like fatigue, unexplained aches, trouble concentrating, or difficulty feeling close to the people around you. In this episode of I Wish You Knew, Adam Lane Smith sits down with embodiment expert Mark Walsh to unpack what happens when we stop listening to the body, and how rebuilding that connection can help you feel more present, connected, and human again.💬 Ready to work with Adam and his team? Apply here:

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42:34

I Respond to My Most UNHINGED Podcast Comments | Adam...

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2026/08/22

Adam Lane Smith celebrates three years of the I Wish You Knew podcast by reading your wildest comments, answering your most pressing questions, and sharing what he has learned from three years of conversations with guests from every walk of life.In this special episode Adam reflects on the shows that surprised him most, the moments that changed his thinking, and what he believes the future of men and women in relationships actually looks like. No guest. No script. Just Adam, your comments, and

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68:13

What Couples Therapy Gets Wrong About Men | Jeff St....

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2026/08/13

Most women use therapy as a metric for whether a man is ready for marriage. Most couples therapists are operating from a framework that was never designed with men in mind. And one licensed professional clinical counselor has seen enough that he is leaving the field entirely.Adam Lane Smith sits down with Jeff Saint James, licensed professional clinical counselor and men's issues specialist, to break down what modern therapy is getting wrong about men, why couples therapy is failing husbands at an

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71:53

The Science of Why You Cannot Feel Loved | Dr. Sue...

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2026/08/06

You are genuinely loved. Your partner is loyal. And you still cannot breathe out and relax all the way. That is not a character flaw. It is a biochemical problem. And it has a biochemical answer.Adam Lane Smith sits down with Dr. Sue Carter, the world's leading expert on oxytocin and vasopressin bonding, to break down exactly why some people cannot feel safe even when they are safe, what chronic fear does to the body over a lifetime, and what the science of love hormones actually tells us about how

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71:22

What Psychiatry Gets Wrong About Attachment and...

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2026/08/04

Adam Lane Smith sits down with Dr. Aaron Kheriaty, psychiatrist, medical ethicist, and author of Making the Cut, to break down what modern psychiatry is getting catastrophically wrong, why the chemical imbalance model is not just incomplete but actively harmful, and what actually heals people when medications and therapy alone are not enough. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why reducing mental illness to a chemical imbalance in the brain has produced a generation of people who believe they

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57:15

What It Takes to Win an Avoidant Man's Heart |...

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2026/07/23

He built one of the most controversial dating sites in the world. He told every woman upfront on day one that he did not believe in marriage. And then he met Dana. And everything changed.Adam Lane Smith sits down with Brandon Wade, founder of Seeking.com, and his partner Dana to break down what it actually takes to win an avoidant man's heart. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why Brandon spent years believing love was a concept invented by poor people and what changed his mind 2- Why radical

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64:23

13 Habits That Build Emotional Resilience | Amy Morin...

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2026/07/23

She lost her mother to a brain aneurysm. Then three years to the day, her 26 year old husband died of a heart attack. She was a therapist who had studied grief and still felt completely unprepared for what it actually felt like. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Amy Morin, therapist and bestselling author of “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do”, to break down what mental strength actually is, why resilience is not the same as just bouncing back, and what people with anxious attachment

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66:47

What Divorce Does to a Man’s Psychology | Adam Lane...

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2026/07/09

He did everything right. Stayed loyal. Showed up for his family. And one day in Florida he found out his wife had been having an affair. That was the moment everything he thought he knew about himself collapsed. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Ralph Brewer, author of The Dead Bedroom Fix and founder of Dad Starting Over, to break down what actually happens to a man after infidelity and divorce, why so many men get stuck trying to recover alone, and what the woman who loves a divorced man needs to

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52:03

Why 83% of Relationship Money Fights Are About...

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2026/07/03

Money is in the top three reasons for divorce in America. But most couples fighting about money are not actually fighting about money. They are fighting about safety, worth, and trust. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Rachel Cruze, financial expert and bestselling author, to break down why money fights are almost never about money, what your attachment style is doing to your finances, and how to finally get on the same page with your partner before the fight becomes a crisis. What you will learn in

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73:54

Why Gen Z Women Are Lonelier Than Ever (& How To Fix...

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2026/06/26

👉 Feeling disconnected, anxious, or overwhelmed by modern dating and social media? Start building secure attachment for FREE. Get access to a supportive community, foundational attachment resources, weekly insights, and practical tools to build healthier relationships and a stronger sense of self. Join FREE today: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-free?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/25 👉 Ready to break free from the patterns modern culture has taught you

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69:24

Why Women Fear Men and How To Fix It | January...

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2026/06/18

👉 Join Secure Circle PLUS: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-plus?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=6/18Women have been given two options. Be silent and submissive or be independent and need nothing. Neither one produces a loving, safe, intimate family. Neither one is what most women actually want. And most women have never been shown a third way. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with January Donovan, founder of The Feminine Revival and

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72:54

The Resentment Epidemic Your Wife Will Never Tell You...

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2026/06/12

She is exhausted, overwhelmed, and carrying a running list in her head that never stops. And he has no idea it exists. Not because he does not care. Because nobody ever showed him what it actually is or what it is costing her.Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Dr. Morgan Cutlip, the world's leading expert on the mental load, to break down exactly what the mental load is, why most men completely miss it, and what it actually takes to fix it without destroying the marriage in

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70:57

Why Men Stop Trying to Make You Happy | Alison...

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2026/06/04

Most women have been trying to understand men the same way they understand other women. And it has never worked. Not because men are broken, but because nobody ever showed her how they actually work.Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Alison Armstrong, one of the world's leading experts on understanding men and the author of The Queen's Code, for a conversation years in the making. Together they break down why men and women keep missing each other, what women get

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72:33

How to Win at Marriage (The Way You Win at Work) |...

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2026/05/21

Your marriage is a team. Most people are running it like a dysfunctional one and have no idea why nothing is working.Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Patrick Lencioni, author of The Five Dysfunctions of a Team and one of the world's leading experts on organizational health, to break down what makes teams fall apart, why the same dysfunctions destroying companies are destroying marriages, and what it actually takes to build real trust, real loyalty, and a relationship that

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59:34

What Nobody Teaches You About Making Friends as an...

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2026/05/15

Two thirds of millennials are experiencing depression symptoms from loneliness. Everyone is walking around wishing someone would talk to them. And nobody is starting. Not because they do not want connection. Because they are terrified of looking like they only want something.Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Jordan Harbinger, one of the world's leading experts on human connection and authentic relationship building, to break down exactly why people stay isolated, what the

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76:34

The Real Reason Men Are Terrified of Fatherhood |...

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2026/05/08

Why would a man embrace marriage and fatherhood in 2026? Most men are not asking that question with curiosity. They are asking it with exhaustion. They have heard a thousand reasons why marriage is a trap, why fatherhood is a burden, and why the risk is not worth the reward. And almost nobody is giving them a reason to say yes.Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Devin Schadt, Executive Director of Fathers of Saint Joseph, for a conversation about what fatherhood actually is,

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