Notes to Self, Notes to You

Summary: We discuss the complicated concept of self-love, the kind that feels uncomfortable and requires unlearning a lifetime of self-criticism. We discuss how our experience conditions our self-love to be "backwards," believing we only deserve kindness when we are productive, strong, or accommodating. We explore why our self-talk often sounds like a critical, disappointed parent, noting that self-love is a skill and practice that is neither natural nor intuitive. We conclude that genu...

Summary: We discuss the consuming feeling of being "behind". We talk about the sense of constantly improvising adulthood and running late because we missed the "invisible curriculum of girlhood" that others seemed to inherit. We acknowledge the reliance on external sources like Google and random online discussions to learn basic skills, which makes our pace feel wrong. We emphasize the truth that we are not behind; we are building ourselves from the ground up. We reframe this necessity not as...

Summary: We discuss the concept of softness, recognizing the challenge of learning to be a person with feelings after a lifetime of strength. We discuss how we learned to hide every soft part of ourselves because it felt out of place and led us to become low-maintenance. We redefine softness, realizing it is strength that trusts and is unafraid, not the opposite of being strong. We conclude that softness is a necessary practice where true healing occurs, requiring us to give ourselves permiss...

Summary: This is a personal episode discussing the challenges of having to navigate major life experiences, such as getting a period for the first time, with a very confused and uncomfortable dad. Due to the lack of open conversation at home and the idea that certain topics (like menstruation and emotions) were taboo, we relied heavily on external sources like Google, YouTube, and, most importantly, social media. Key Quotes: "I thought it was a taboo topic, something that you had to be ...

Summary: Welcome back to Notes to Self, Notes to You, a space for learning to live peacefully in your body. This episode challenges the idea that full self-love is required for inner peace, arguing that you don't need to love your body every day to respect it. We discuss dealing with personal insecurities, including weight struggles and living with Erb's palsy. The key is to stop negative comparisons and treat your body kindly because it is keeping you alive and has carried you through every ...

In this episode, we’re talking about finding your own sense of self whether that’s style, your personality, or just finding the pieces of yourself.

In this episode, you'll be introduced to the concept of our podcast, where we talk about growing up with a single father or without a strong female figure. We'll dive into self-expression, identity, our own definition of femininity, and more.