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Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE

Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman

Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you"re struggling with addiction—we get it. Recovery is hard. We"ve been there. We"ll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you"re married to an addict—we KNOW

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46:01

He has the Right to Completely Screw Up His Life!

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2026/02/17

In episode 320, we address a betrayed partner’s heartbreaking story of separation turning into divorce as her husband’s addiction spirals further out of control. What was supposed to be a wake-up call instead became deeper indulgence, leaving her feeling disrespected, confused, and searching for closure. We explore how addicts can reach a point where fantasy feels “authentic,” and how emotional immaturity, avoidance of discomfort, arrested development, and untreated mental health issues often drive

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37:35

When Betrayal is Confessed, What are Healthy...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2026/02/09

When betrayal is confessed, both partners are immediately forced into territory they never chose. In this episode (#319), we address a powerful submission from a man whose pornography use and delayed disclosure led to the end of a serious relationship. We unpack why betrayal permanently changes a relationship’s landscape and why healthy boundaries for the betrayed partner begin with space, agency, and the right to decide what future—if any—feels authentic. Boundaries are not punishments; they are

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44:05

Can "Just Looking" Destroy a Marriage: Understanding...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2026/02/04

In this episode (#318), we respond to a deeply painful and thought-provoking submission from a partner married for fifteen years who discovered her husband’s long-standing pattern of visual sexual behaviors. While he insists he rarely masturbated, his compulsive scanning, voyeurism, and objectification left her questioning whether “just looking” could really constitute addiction—and why it felt so devastating. We outline how repeated denial, trickle-truth, and gaslighting created not only sexual

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36:32

From Shock to Self–Trust: Reclaiming Your Inner Truth...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2026/01/27

In this episode (#317), we address one of the most destabilizing experiences betrayed partners face: the collapse of reality after discovering a partner’s hidden addiction. When betrayal comes from someone who appeared kind, loving, and emotionally present, the trauma can feel especially disorienting. Partners often question their intelligence, intuition, and judgment—but we make it clear that intuition cannot detect information that was deliberately concealed. Betrayal is not a failure of

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47:09

What Does "Proactive Honesty" in Your Daily Life &...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2026/01/20

In this episode (#316) we focus on the critical role of proactive honesty in healing relationships impacted by addiction, betrayal, and trauma. Proactive honesty goes far beyond “not lying”—it means leading with truth rather than waiting to be confronted, asked the right question, or forced into disclosure. When honesty becomes reactive instead of proactive, trust erodes, emotional safety collapses, and partners lose the ability to make informed choices. We emphasize that honesty struggles are not

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44:05

No Bullsh*t—What’s ACTUALLY Blocking An Addict’s TRUE...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2026/01/13

This episode (#315) challenges the common illusion that visible recovery behaviors—meetings, therapy, sobriety streaks—automatically equal real change. Using a devastating listener submission as the catalyst, we explain why relapse after “recovery” often hurts partners more deeply than early betrayal: by that point, the addict knows the harm and still chooses it. We distinguish reactive recovery (driven by panic, fear, and consequences) from real recovery (driven by identity change, courage, and

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40:40

How to Attain REAL and LASTING Change in 2026!

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2026/01/06

As a new year begins, many addicts and betrayed partners feel both hope and heartbreak—hope that things can change, and heartbreak from remembering all the years they didn’t. In this episode, we explain why traditional New Year’s resolutions often fail: they are usually made from reactionary emotional states, lack realistic structure, and collapse when real life returns. Instead of empowering change, these resolutions frequently deepen shame, reinforce hopeless identity narratives, and push people

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48:23

Face the Devastation You Have Heaped Upon Your...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/12/30

In episode #313, we address a hard but necessary truth: addicts cannot change what they refuse to see. Using two deeply moving submissions from betrayed partners, we illustrate how years of porn use, dishonesty, staggered disclosure, and fake recovery create devastating emotional, psychological, relational, and financial consequences. These stories highlight partners who are not “impatient” or “unforgiving,” but who are reaching the end of their capacity after living in chronically unsafe

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35:43

My Partner is in Recovery. Should we let the past go...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/12/23

Episode 312—Many couples in recovery assume that progress means focusing only on the future, but this mindset often overlooks the deep losses created by addiction and betrayal. Partners may grieve the relationship they thought they had, the years marked by deception, and the emotional safety that was taken from them without consent. When grief is minimized or avoided—often in the name of “positivity”—partners can feel unseen and pressured to suppress their pain, recreating the emotional neglect that

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34:59

After Years of Porn Use, Will I Ever See My Partner...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/12/16

In this episode (#311), we respond to a vulnerable question from an addict early in recovery who wonders whether years of porn use have permanently damaged his ability to see his wife as the most attractive person in his life. He worries that neurological “chemical bonding” to porn images and body types means he will always be more attached to fantasy than to his real partner—and that his wife may be committing to a lifetime of being second-best. We affirm that pornography does significantly impact

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45:44

When are Specific Details about an Addict's Behavior...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/12/09

This episode (#310) examines one of the most complex issues couples face after sexual betrayal: determining which details about an addict’s behavior genuinely help the betrayed partner heal, and which unintentionally deepen her trauma. When discovery occurs, a partner’s neurological fight-flight-freeze system activates, compelling her to search for every possible detail to regain safety. Drawing directly from Dr. Minwalla’s concept of Integrity Abuse Disorder, we explain how the addict’s secret

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43:40

What is "Integrity Abuse" and How does it Impact the...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/12/02

In Episode 309, Mark & Steve address a PBSE listener's questions about "Integrity abuse," which is a relational pattern where one partner chronically violates core commitments—honesty, transparency, fidelity, emotional responsibility, and safety—through secrecy, deceit, manipulation, and strategic omission. Unlike overt emotional or verbal abuse, integrity abuse often operates quietly, making it harder to recognize and name. It creates a manufactured version of reality in which

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37:19

Why My Body Shuts Down: Understanding Sexual Trauma...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/11/25

This episode (#308) focuses on a partner whose body has completely shut down sexually after decades of betrayal, manipulation, and sexual violation—including being touched while unconscious. We explain how her body has not suddenly changed since disclosure; it has been adapting for years to a marriage that was unsafe long before she understood why. This long-term exposure to deception and boundary-breaking creates what we call “complex trauma shaping,” where the nervous system rewires itself to

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46:03

How Do We Discover/Recover Healthy Sexual Intimacy...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/11/18

In episode 307, Mark & Steve respond to an all-too-common history and situation submitted by a betrayed partner. Healthy sexual intimacy after betrayal cannot simply return to what it once was; it must be rebuilt on a new foundation of authenticity and safety. Because pornography shapes the brain and rewires arousal patterns, couples often find themselves questioning what’s real, what’s healthy, and whether desire is rooted in connection or in old fantasy. Many partners struggle to trust, and

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45:11

Is my Partner a clinical "Narcissist" or does he just...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/11/11

This episode (#306) addresses a common but painful question from betrayed partners: “Is my spouse a narcissist, or just showing narcissistic tendencies?” Mark and Steve explain that while the term “narcissist” has become a cultural buzzword, true narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is rare and defined by a complete absence of empathy. In contrast, addicts in denial often appear narcissistic because they’re reacting defensively from fear and shame. Their hurtful behaviors—blame-shifting,

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48:38

My Porn Addicted Partner uses photos of Family &...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/11/03

This episode (#305) opens with a raw letter from a betrayed partner who discovered her husband had been using social media photos of women they both knew—friends, clients, even family—to fuel his sexual fantasies. Her anguish—“How could he ever love me if he could do this?”—captures the emotional devastation of betrayal trauma. We discuss how porn and sex addiction warp the brain’s functioning, turning sexual stimulation into a survival need. When addiction takes over the limbic brain, logic,

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39:39

In a Relationship Filled with Betrayal—How Can I...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/10/28

In Episode 304, Mark and Steve address a powerful letter from a partner whose relationship began in betrayal—her husband secretly continued sexual involvement with his ex while dating her and later maintained years of hidden pornography use. Despite countless promises to quit, he lied, relapsed, and gaslighted her, leaving her emotionally and physically wrecked. They affirm that what she’s experiencing is genuine betrayal trauma, not overreaction, describing how chronic deceit and emotional abuse

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43:49

What does ACTUAL Accountability look like for a...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/10/20

In PBSE Episode 303, Mark and Steve respond to a betrayed partner's questions about what real accountability looks like for a recovering porn/sex addict. Real accountability in porn and sex addiction recovery is far more than saying “I’m sorry.” It’s a deep, ongoing process of taking full ownership of one’s actions, beginning with radical honesty toward oneself and others. Addicts must stop minimizing, rationalizing, or blaming others, and instead acknowledge the full scope of their behavior

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39:19

My Partner says He Only Has Eyes for Me—but He’s...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/10/14

In this PBSE episode (#302), Mark & Steve respond to a betrayed partner who faces an all-too-common form of "double-dealing." When a partner says “you’re the most beautiful woman in the world” but secretly consumes porn featuring people who look nothing like you—who are NOT you—the contradiction is deeply painful. It undermines trust, triggers feelings of rejection, and cuts to the core of self-worth. This isn’t just about “boys being boys” — it’s a betrayal of the exclusivity and

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45:25

How Does a Porn/Sex Addict Coercing His Partner into...

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE ·

2025/10/07

This episode of the PBSE Podcast (#301) centers on the question, “How does a porn/sex addict coercing his partner into acting out fantasies impact them both?” Mark and Steve begin by acknowledging the devastating reality of such coercion and the way it violates the original commitment of exclusivity and mutual respect that every relationship is meant to hold. They describe how many addicts enter marriage hiding a “secret sexual basement,” carrying unspoken behaviors and fantasies from their

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