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Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

Dan Purcell | Sex & Intimacy Coach | Christian Husband

It"s a challenge to build a long term relationship full of love, desire, and sexy fun. It can be especially challenging for Christians in a world filled with mixed messages about sex, intimacy, and marriage that go contrary to traditional values. Your host is Dan Purcell, a Life Coach and Couples Sex Expert that specializes in helping married couples take their sex life to the next level. You"ll gain new ideas, perspectives, and practical tools to help you "get your marriage on"! This podcast

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328: Five Steps to Having Juicy Sex in Long-term...

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell ·

2026/10/02

What if your sex life is good—but you still sense there could be something more? Sex therapist Dr. Emily Jamea kept hearing this question from couples who had overcome their sexual struggles but still longed for the passion and intensity they once felt. Her search for answers led her to study sexual flow—the experience of becoming so immersed in intimacy that distractions disappear and time seems to stand still. In this episode, Dr. Emily shares five research-backed skills that can help couples move

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327: Dreading "Are We Having Sex Tonight?" Try the...

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell ·

2026/09/25

Has sex in your marriage become a yes-or-no question: "Are we having sex tonight?" For one spouse, that question may bring hope and anticipation. For the other, it may feel like a test they're about to pass or fail. When every flirtation, touch, or attempt at closeness seems tied to one expected outcome, both spouses may eventually stop reaching for each other. In this episode, Dan shares how this pass-or-fail dynamic affected his own marriage and introduces a different approach: the "menu mindset."

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326: Stop Having "Baseball Sex" (Do This Instead),...

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2026/09/18

Does sex in your marriage ever feel like a race toward intercourse or orgasm? Dr. Lisa Elieson calls this "baseball sex"—rushing around the bases instead of enjoying where you are. In this episode, she joins Dan to explore sexuality as a creative art: something two people build together, moment by moment, without knowing exactly where it has to lead. You'll learn how slowing down, letting go of a predetermined outcome, and making room for each partner's unique desires can reduce pressure and create

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45:21

325: The More You Pursue, the More They Pull Away:...

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2026/09/11

The more you pursue your spouse for emotional or sexual connection, the more they seem to pull away—and the harder you try, the worse it gets. Certified sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson explains why couples get trapped in this pursue-withdraw cycle and how vulnerable, blame-free conversations can begin to change it. We also discuss why trading emotional connection for sex backfires, what women's bodies actually need for pleasure, and why securely attached couples often have the most—and most

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43:11

324: Why You're Always the One Initiating Sex (And...

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2026/09/04

Why does one spouse keep reaching for more sexually while the other feels responsible for keeping things safe? Dr. Roy Myers, author of Playful Practice, shares what his research with long-term couples revealed about this common dynamic. We explore the relationship between faith and sensuality, why many couples don't actually have a communication problem, and what Roy means when he tells couples to "build a sex room." Resources Learn more about Dr. Roy Myers and his work at ChristianSexuality.net

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323: Your Roommate Marriage Isn't Caused by...

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2026/08/28

If your marriage feels more like a roommate arrangement than a romantic relationship, the problem may not be that you've grown too far apart. It may be that you've become too merged, too careful, and too afraid to disagree. In this episode, Dan explains how avoiding differences to keep the peace slowly drains honesty, intimacy, and desire from a marriage. You'll learn how to recognize the pattern keeping you stuck and use three practical steps—spot it, steady yourself, and switch your step—to begin

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322: BONUS — Marriage Undressed: Desire Differences,...

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2026/08/24

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321: Why Your Libido Disappeared After the Honeymoon...

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell ·

2026/08/21

Why does libido feel effortless during the honeymoon phase—and then seem to disappear? After experiencing this pattern in her own relationships, Hannah Johnson, known as The Libido Fairy, set out to understand what allows desire to grow in a long-term relationship. In this episode, she shares practical ways couples can make intimacy more pleasurable, collaborative, and genuinely connecting. You'll learn how to use a 1–10 scale to take the pressure out of initiation, create an intimacy menu, plan sx

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320: Is Masturbation Okay in Marriage?

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2026/08/14

Is masturbation okay in a Christian marriage? It's a common question, but one many couples are afraid to ask—and few people answer directly. In this episode, Dan offers two practical tests to help you and your spouse decide what is right for your marriage. He also explores the difference between masturbation, lust, and fantasy; potential benefits for intimacy and body awareness; and how to navigate the conversation when you and your spouse disagree. This isn't about handing every couple the same

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319: When You Want Sex More (or Less) Than Your...

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2026/08/07

When one spouse wants sex more than the other, both partners can end up feeling hurt—the higher-desire spouse feels rejected, while the lower-desire spouse feels pressured or inadequate. In this episode, sex therapist Dr. Jennifer Litner explains what actually helps couples navigate desire differences. We discuss resentment and emotional repair, duty sex, hormonal and lifestyle factors, the pressure created by sexual scarcity, and why aiming for "good enough sex" can lead to more connection and

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318: I No Longer Ask My Wife to Initiate Sex (Here's...

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2026/07/31

For years, I asked my wife to initiate sex more often because I wanted to feel chosen and desired. Instead, my requests created pressure, scorekeeping, and a cycle that made genuine desire even harder. In this episode, I explain why I stopped asking, what I misunderstood about responsive desire, and how shifting from initiating sex to initiating connection transformed our intimate relationship. We'll talk about desire discrepancies, obligation sex, sexual entitlement, emotional connection, and how

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317: The Spicy Little Habit That Reignited This Mom's...

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2026/07/24

When work, kids, meals, schedules, and the never-ending mental checklist take everything you have, intimacy can start to feel like one more task. Amy Nesbit knows that tension firsthand. After nearly 20 years as a working professional—including time at Apple—she has learned how making the invisible load visible, asking for help before resentment builds, and protecting the parts of herself that bring her joy have strengthened her marriage. Amy also shares the unexpectedly spicy habit that gave her

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316: The Marriage Problem You Can't See (And the...

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2026/07/17

Most couples think they know what's hurting their marriage. Poor communication. Different sex drives. Parenting disagreements. Financial stress. Growing apart. That's exactly what one couple thought, too. After 18 years of marriage, they came to Dan convinced they knew what needed fixing. But as they peeled back the layers, they uncovered a deeper problem—one neither of them had recognized—and that discovery changed everything. In this episode, Dan shares the surprising reframe that brought new hope

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315: Rethinking Porn Addiction: A Better Path to...

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2026/07/10

Shame thrives in secrecy—but healing doesn't. In this deeply honest conversation, Dan sits down with Craig Perra, a former attorney whose secret life of pornography, strip clubs, prostitution, and compulsive sexual behavior nearly destroyed everything he cared about. After years of trying therapy, recovery groups, and identifying himself as a "sex addict," Craig reached a breaking point. What happened next completely changed how he viewed healing. Together, Dan and Craig explore why destructive

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314: "A More Perfect Union": What America's 250th Can...

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell ·

2026/07/03

What does the Constitutional Convention have to do with your marriage? More than you might think. As we celebrate Independence Day, Dan explores one of the greatest acts of collaboration in history—the creation of the U.S. Constitution—and uncovers surprising lessons for couples navigating differences in intimacy, communication, and connection. The delegates in Philadelphia didn't create unity by forcing everyone to agree. They built structures that honored competing needs. Your marriage can too. In

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313: How Pelvic Floor Health Impacts Pleasure, Pain,...

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell ·

2026/06/26

What if the key to better orgasms, less pain during sex, and greater confidence in intimacy isn't in your head—it's in your pelvic floor? In this episode, Dan sits down with pelvic floor physical therapist Kristin Damery to discuss the often-overlooked foundation of sexual wellness. Kristin explains how pelvic floor health affects arousal, orgasm, pain during intercourse, blood flow, muscle function, and overall sexual satisfaction. You'll learn: • Why painful sex is common—but not normal • The

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312: Emotional Masculinity and Getting My Wife to...

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell ·

2026/06/19

What happens when you realize your spouse still loves you—but doesn't really like you? After 20 years of marriage, that's the realization Matt Sallas faced. In this episode, Matt shares how addiction, obligation-based sex, and emotional disconnection nearly destroyed his marriage—and the framework that helped rebuild trust, attraction, and intimacy. We discuss emotional safety, emotional masculinity, the difference between reluctant and enthusiastic consent, and Matt's simple "Sex Sequence" for

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311: How To Stop Having Boring Sex: 7 Principles for...

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell ·

2026/06/12

Has your sex life become a little too predictable? In this episode, Dan shares 7 simple principles to help couples break out of routine, deepen connection, and bring more fun, playfulness, and excitement into their intimate relationship. From creating an intimacy menu to exploring new experiences together, you'll learn practical ways to stop having boring sex and start creating more meaningful connection. Resources from the episode: Awesome date night and intimacy apps Sexploration List

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310: Stop Doing The Dishes To Get Her In The Mood:...

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell ·

2026/06/05

Most people think being a good spouse means being selfless, accommodating, and easygoing. But what if those same habits are quietly creating resentment, frustration, and disconnection? In this episode, we're joined by Stu Murray, a men's leadership coach, to discuss the "Nice Guy Pattern"—the tendency to suppress your own needs, avoid conflict, and hope your partner will magically figure out what you want. Together we explore: • What covert contracts are and why they create resentment • Why

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309: What To Do When Your Spouse Isn't Interested in...

Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell ·

2026/05/29

Differences in sexual desire can feel deeply personal. One spouse feels rejected. The other feels pressured. And both end up wondering if something is wrong with their marriage. In this episode, Dan shares three principles that can completely change the way you think about desire differences in marriage. He talks honestly about the hidden power dynamics couples fall into, why conflict around sex is actually an opportunity for growth, and how sometimes "low desire" is actually a wise response to

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