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Fruitbowl: An Oral History of Queer Sex

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First person stories of queer coming of age. Gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans and genderqueer people.

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S5E21 - Non-Monogamy

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2025/10/10

We all know the script: You meet someone. You date. You eventually say “I love you.” Pretty soon, you’re on the relationship escalator: moving in together, getting married and living the life that everyone dreams of. For generations, this script also assumed monogamy. But this episode is not about those kinds of relationships. This episode features stories about how we discover our own preferences when it comes to sexual exclusivity and the different ways queer people define relationships. James

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01:01:07

S5E20 - Communities Vol. 4, Kink Scenes Pt.2

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2025/09/12

Kink is, by nature, taboo. That’s part of its appeal. Paradoxically, kinksters are often better at articulating what they want from sex because their sexual interests fall outside the boundaries of the most common sexual encounters. Kinksters are known for blazing trails when it comes to innovative ways to talk about sex and give consent. Consent is built into the process of negotiating together what will and what won’t go down. For example, in this episode, Ari describes asking potential

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01:04:27

S5E19 - Communities Vol. 3, Kink Scenes Pt.1

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2025/06/26

It’s tempting for queer people to want to conceal our kinks in an effort to be more acceptable to straight society. Acting like vanilla heteros is just one way to live in peace during this era of government-sanctioned hostility towards queer people. But bible thumping conservatives don’t really differentiate between kinky and non-kinky queer people. So we may as well let our freak flags fly. In this first episode of a two part series on kink, we’ll hear a variety of stories about kink discovery,

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01:10:09

S5E18 - Communities Vol. 2 - Bad Religion

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2025/05/09

Religion has a terrible track record when it comes to queer members and issues: condemnation, rejection and often, in the case of the Catholic church, exploitation and excommunication. While not all religions are anti-LGBT, most everyone I interviewed for Fruitbowl had negative experiences with their faith, especially in their coming of age years when we didn’t have the agency to decide for ourselves if religion was something we actually wanted to participate in. Instead, it was thrust upon us and,

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01:13:19

S5E17 - Communities Vol. 1 - Trans Stories

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2025/04/18

To be trans in America right now is to live day to day knowing that your very existence is considered a provocation, a threat. But for the next hour and 13 minutes, I invite you to leave all the chaos and vitriol of our current political climate behind and listen to these trans and non-binary interviewees share some of my favorite Fruitbowl stories about identity, community, sex and intimacy. Not just trans stories. Human stories. Just listen and I can guarantee you’ll find something you identify

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01:12:19

S5E16 - Firsts Vol.9: Young Adult Love

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2024/12/31

Love is complicated and for queer people, it's even more so. Queer love rarely resembles traditional romantic stories. And while our representation is getting better, the lack of realistic queer adult love stories can make sorting through those complicated emotions and feelings a struggle. Many of this episode’s stories describe a certain kind of gratitude for the experience of first love, oftentimes the interviewees describe becoming close friends after their relationships ended. If a romantic

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01:09:44

S5E15 - Firsts Vol.8: College Love

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2024/12/22

College is often the first opportunity to separate ourselves, both geographically and psychologically, from oppressive families or communities. It's a chance to examine stifled urges and investigate sidelined feelings in an environment that includes others seeking similar experiences. When you combine this newfound sense of self with a bit of confidence and some good old fashioned young adult hormones, it's no wonder so many of us find ourselves falling in love for the first time at college. List

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00:55:21

S5E14 - Firsts Vol.7: High School Heartstoppers

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2024/10/18

This episode is the first of a three part series about first love. Specifically, the messy, inconvenient, heartbreaking chaos that first love often inspires for people in high school as well as all the sweetness, optimism and exciting feelings of discovery both about ourselves and that special someone. Mix in the big feelings of emerging sexuality and you can understand why so many of these interviewees remember this time in their lives like it was yesterday.List of contributors and links to their

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01:03:08

Guest Podcast: "Nuances - Queering Premodern Asia"

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2024/08/16

Enjoy this bonus episode of the podcast series Nuances: Our Asian Stories. Hosted by Lazou, Nuance's latest season is titled Queering Premodern Asia and each episode explores different aspects of sexual diversity in premodern Asia with commentary and personal stories from guest scholars and artists. Lazou reached out recently and, because our podcasts have a lot of themes in common, we decided to share an episode of each other’s pod with our listeners. Just so you know, Lazou’s structure of

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01:14:25

S5E13 - Firsts Vol.6: Young Adult

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2024/08/02

You graduated high school. You packed up all your things and you’re moving into a dorm room or your first apartment. Finally, you have the chance to define life on your own terms. For many queer people, leaving our family and getting our own place is the chance to finally seek out the experiences we’ve always wanted but weren’t allowed to have when every move, every decision we made was scrutinized by the family that we grew up with. In this final volume of our “Firsts” series we hear from

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S5E12 - Firsts Vol.5: The Art of Cruising

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2024/07/18

These days, thanks to technology, it’s easier than ever to hook up; but no app can provide the rush you feel when you lock eyes with someone in person and you know, without any verbal communication, that there is a mutual interest. In this episode, our interviewees share first-time stories of cruising as well as other anecdotes about the art of cruising and what we’ve lost now that it has become less common.List of contributors and links to their full episodes: Justin (S4E1): The basics of

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01:14:39

S5E11 - Spilling Tea, 2024 Pride Edition

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2024/06/27

Let’s end Pride 2024 with a bang! For this episode, Dave is taking a break from his series on First Times and he’s selected a few of his favorite moments when interviewees shared profound thoughts about queerness, community, identity and, of course, there are a lot of things to say about sex. So put your rubbers on because tea will be spilled, mics will be dropped and truth bombs will be detonated.Here’s links to each contributor’s individual episode: Jason (S1E1): Don’t waste your time on the

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01:11:32

S5E10 - Firsts Vol.4: Internet Hookups

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2024/06/13

There’s a tendency to devalue first times that come as a result of the internet. There’s no meet-cutes; no love at first sight. The getting-to-know-you window happens on your device. Most of them are one-offs we will never see ever again. But, like it or not, this is the way most of us find first time partners now though there are signs that dating apps are losing users and people are starting to rely more on in-person opportunities.The most compelling part of first time internet hookups is when

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01:14:38

S5E9 - Firsts Vol.3: High School Hookups, Part 2

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2024/05/23

As I was building this second high school hookup episode, I realized that many of the stories have striking similarities. People who grew up thousands of miles apart, often in different decades, had similar coming of age experiences. So I decided to create an entire episode featuring story pairs that are like fun-house reflections of each other; further proof that, even though queer adolescence is often full of deep insecurity and loneliness, there is likely someone out there who is going through

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01:18:18

S5E8 - Firsts Vol.2: High School Hookups, Part 1

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2024/05/09

For queer people, our sexuality is not something that just switches on one day. It reveals itself over time - usually during adolescence - and the experience is often internal and private. Our first explorations into physical intimacy with other people often serve as a kind of test to see if we like it and help us start to define the role that sex will play in our lives as adults. High school is “go time” for these explorations and life quickly becomes a steaming stew of hormones, insecurities and

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00:40:30

S5E7 - Firsts Vol.1: First Crush

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2024/03/01

Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify.Who was your first crush? That first intense infatuation with someone special? A famous actor? A singer? An Athlete? Or was it someone you knew like another student at your school, a hot neighbor or a teacher who gave you extra attention? Whoever it was, first crushes are often the first indication that we have queer tendencies. This can be validating but also a little scary. In case you’re a size queen and want an extra long version of this episode,

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00:39:43

S5E6 - Sex Ed Vol.3: Mastering "Self-Love" (Puritan...

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2024/02/16

Help support independent queer media. Get exclusive access to an UNCUT version of this episode with more than 30 extra minutes of stories by joining Fruitbowl’s Patreon community. Learn more at fruitbowlpodcast.com/donate Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify. Note: the descriptions of this episode were altered to avoid censorship by the major podcast platforms.America’s puritanical roots are never more exposed than they are when the subject of "self-love" is discussed or, more often,

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00:39:43

S5E6 - Sex Ed Vol.3: Mastering Masturbation

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2024/02/16

Get exclusive access to a LONGER, UNCUT version of this episode with more than 30 extra minutes of stories by joining Fruitbowl’s Patreon community. Help support independent queer media. Learn more at fruitbowlpodcast.com/donate Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify. America’s puritanical roots are never more exposed than they are when the subject of masturbation is discussed or, more often, avoided by schools and parents. Some religions explicitly discourage it. But when it comes to our

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01:12:44

S5E5 - Sex Ed Vol.2: My First Porn

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2024/01/25

Patreon members get exclusive access to an UNCUT version of this episode with 20 extra minutes of stories. Learn more at fruitbowlpodcast.com/donate Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify. Many of us grew up in families and communities that never once acknowledged the existence of queer people: no exposure to queer authors, filmmakers, artists. Pornography is often the first media we see that acknowledges queer sexuality. In this episode, you will hear stories of pornography found under

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01:12:03

S5E4 - Sex Ed Vol.1: Secrets of Sex

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2024/01/11

Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify. Now we’re getting down to the nitty gritty. For this first episode we’re going back to the beginning of our coming of age when we had no clue what sex was or what it even meant. Maybe we heard about it from our parents, our friends or maybe we even went to a library. Many of us got the wrong information or maybe it just didn’t make sense but whatever we learned we definitely wanted to know more. Here’s a list of contributors for this episode along with

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